My husband puts his BS11 first

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I have come to the realization that I have to let it go about the fact that I feel my husband puts his 11 YO son's needs first. It will not change. I will not change him. I have a 12 YO and a 9 YO and together we have a 7.5 month old girl. My husband disagrees that he puts his son first but it is obvious from his behavior. I can become very immature and sometimes want to just go do fun things with my kids without his son to hurt him. I know that is not right and I stop myself. It is not the child's fault. Maybe I'm jealous. Maybe I just don't want my children to feel slighted. Not sure. My husband is good to my kids and I adore him. I just wish this blended family thing wasn't so difficult.

Yea, you will just have to

Yea, you will just have to accept this. It's the whole guilty Disney Daddy thing.

Even when wrong, these kids will be right in DD's eyes and even when your marriage and family need to come first - they won't.

Welcome to step hell. Leave all hopes, dreams and sanity at the door and prepare to be 2nd class with no rights and no voice.

Enjoy.

I have come to the

I have come to the realization that I have to let it go about the fact that I feel my husband puts his 11 YO son's needs first.
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He should put his kids needs at the top of the list. He made an 18 year commitment to his child. It is frustrating and I understand not "liking" the situation. But you either need to suck it up for a few more years or not be married to someone who has kids.

That is one reason I would not marry or live with my DH until SS was much older.