Troubled child
So my stepdaughter is now 7, will be 8 this year, and has lived with me and my husband since she was 4. She has no contact with her biological mom (we don't know where she is) not does she ever talk about her. I am posting on here to hopefully get some help! She has been getting into trouble constantly since she started living with us. It had gotten better but now we are back to old habits. She gets into trouble everyday at daycare and at school. She does things to make people upset on purpose and lies like crazy. We have tried every tactic we can think of to stop this behavior. We've tried the corner, the wall, bed early, sitting on edge of the bed, spankings, positive reinforcement, ignoring the bad praising the good, good job charts, gold stars, taking toys away... You name it... We've tried it. I was just wondering if they're are other people going through this! I feel like this is never going to end!
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Awww I hear you. I always
Awww I hear you. I always advise talking to your pediatrician. My son was also troubled and when I finally broke down in his pediatrician's office about it, they referred me to a behavior specialist at our local Children's Hospital. Also, the school helped us get in touch with our Intermediate Unit (every county has one, I think). They have lots of options for help. Both of these changed our lives for the better. That, and time. He is 17 now and has grown out of a lot of his issues, thank goodness.
My son was so bad, he was expelled from Kindergarten! He is now a good student in a public school and likes school very much (and hasn't been in any real trouble since 5th grade)!
Much luck to you! **Hugs!***
We've been through a mental
We've been through a mental health for behavioral issues but they said all tests were inconclusive and that was it. I'm in the military so don't really have a choice of who to go to.
Yes
Yes
I understand how she has had
I understand how she has had a rough life! I I hate that she went through that. When she first came to live with me I bough her everything new. I wanted her to have a life that I never had.
I always tell her I love her. I want her to always know that. I leave little notes for her randomly telling her that I love her. Even this past weekend we went to the park multiple times and watched multiple family movies so that she knows how much fun we can have if she wasn't in trouble all the time. I want to do all those things for her on the daily but how do I when she's always in trouble? I already got a text from daycare, an hour after I dropped her off, that she had already been yelling at other kids and been in time out a couple times already.
We have went through the process for behavioral issues and ADHD but the doctors says it's inconclusive and that was the end. My husband and I don't know what to do now. I'm scared that if this continues then I'll lose daycare.
Been there. I lost my
Been there. I lost my daycare with my son too. Well actully the director pulled me in her office one day and gently suggested that I pull my son out of that daycare center because the complaints from the other parents were mounting. And one parent was threatening a lawsuit if my son was not removed.
So, I found someone who would watch my son from her home. It was better for him anyway.
She is in a home daycare
She is in a home daycare right now. My daycare provider says she is doing things she knows she's not supposed to do. I'm getting the vibe that she's starting to get annoyed with it. She's been going there for 7 months now.
I am SO going to do this with
I am SO going to do this with my 11 year old next time he gets detention for missing homework or talking in class!!
We've tried the sentences as
We've tried the sentences as well. She would sit at the table and write for hours and only have half a page done. I would tell her until you finish these pages front and back you won't get up. She would literally take her time and sit at the table till midnight. This happened on multiple occasions. And if we just left her alone she wouldn't do anything. I would come back in a hour to check on her and she's literally have one sentence done.
This past weekend I took everything out of her room. No posters. No toys. No books. Nothing. She walked in her room and acted like nothing was wrong! I was like seriously. She just ignored that everything was stripped from her room and went on with her day. Nothing we do phases her! It's so irritating.
OH man, she is a tough one!
OH man, she is a tough one! Can you get a 2nd opinion? Oppositional Defiance Disorder is coming to my mind (and I am NO doctor, this is just my own humble opinion!)
I've requested one yes. I'm
I've requested one yes. I'm military so it's not easy for us to get off base care. I am about to call and see if the referral was approved or not. I need help with this kid! I love her but I'm on edge all the time now. Every time I get a text I'm scared it's daycare and it usually is.
Yes, I know what you mean.
Yes, I know what you mean. There were many years that the sound of my phone ringing would make me physically ill because 99% of the time it was about my son. One time I actually pulled over on the side of the road and vomited.
Please hang in there. It is SO frustrating trying to find the right help, but sometimes all it takes is finding the right doctor. I hope you do. You are doing so much for her and in the end it will pay off. I know it seems like a long road, but you will make it. You are already doing all the right things! One day at a time, and keep talking to people about it.
Thank you!! I hope things get
Thank you!! I hope things get better!