I've posted something about this a while back. But things have changed a bit. The day to day school work has been our job since the skids have gone to school. BM 'says' she wants to be involved in school, but every opportunity she is given is tossed to the wayside. Most assignments that are given on Friday don't get done, so they get added to the work we have to get done the next week. As a result, skid (only one of them) has at least three to five assignments missing at any given point in time.

There are only so many hours in a day. Skid spends most of them doing school work or sleeping. I get that skid doesn't want to spend every waking moment doing school work, but because she doesn't do work on the weekends, she makes it that way. BM tells us that it's her time. Ok. Fine. YOUR time; not the kid's time.

However, now there's a situation that has developed. Due to school involvement in the situation (someone else is noticing the pattern), BM says "sure, skid can stay with you to get work done." Then when it comes time for that to happen, she backs out and says "my time" again. Skid is working on a project the last few weekends. I have gotten no less than three phone calls an hour asking for help on the project because "BM doesn't get it." I'm not really sure how to handle this as I am torn. Part of me feels like if BM doesn't care to leave the kid here to get the work done, why should I help? BM is college educated--she knows how to do it, but doesn't take the time to look at the work. But part of me wants to help, as it's not the kids fault that BM doesn't care; and she is asking for help.

What would you do?