At least I don't have to worry about DH trying to out-do BM. I WISH BM would take SD15 shopping or have her husband or someone take the girl shopping! The woman doesn't pay child support and the child lives with us...it's the least she can do! We bought SD15 a few things last year after BM screamed at DH because SD15 called her and told her we weren't doing "back to school" shopping. Because SD15 didn't like what we bought (though she is the one who made the choices in the store...just not her "kind of stores"), she got BM's friend to take her shopping for all the expensive stuff she wanted! Doesn't phase me one bit when she walks in with all these bags from Macy's, Pac Sun, Hollister...I just think to my self, "She suckered someone!" Probably the ONLY thing that pisses DH off! He has been wearing the same 5 pair of Levis from JC Penny for the last 5 years at least, and he replaces his Dockers for work like every 3-4 years as they wear thin in all the wrong spots. When I go to consignment stores, he goes and hits up the men's racks to see if there may be any shirts he likes...he is luck if he finds 1 or 2. Sometimes, he will get a couple of new ones from JC Penny...especially if they are on sale.

Then he sees SD15's room...and she has more clothing than DH and I combined, and she complains she has nothing to wear...that she needs jeans...she needs shorts...she needs new skirts! I'm sorry...anyone who can go 3 months without doing any laundry obviously has no need for clothing! Probably the only thing DH doesn't give in and buy for her is general clothing. If she claims to need something specific for color guard...like black leggings...that is one thing. Every thing else, he is like, "Maybe you should inventory what is in your room first!"

Because nothing went through the court! When SD15 started with her crap (skipping school, drinking, smoking pot), she basically got kicked out and sent to our house. DH made it clear to BM that he wasn't giving her money if SD15 was with us, and she agreed, on the condition that he didn't try to get child support out of her. She hasn't worked a single day since giving birth to SD15, and doesn't plan to any time soon. At this point, the woman get anxiety whenever she tries to leave the house...or so she claims. But yet, she is quick to try to demand that she can tell DH what he must buy for SD15...like money grows on trees or something. I think a lot of it is SD15 stirring the pot...she asks for something, she gets told no, so she goes to BM and plays the "They are so mean...they don't buy me ANYTHING" routine, and then BM calls DH cussing him how, because how dare he deny the princess anything!

I'm pretty sure the next time SD15 goes over to BM's (whenever that is) that DH will be getting a call. SD15 last night was again trying to tell DH that she needed braces. Here's the deal...anything wrong with SD15's teeth (outside of potentially thin enamel from purging) is cosmetic. She has some spaces because the teeth are a little bit smaller. They are straight...they aren't over-lapping, they aren't grinding wrong or causing pain due to misalignment...her teeth are just slightly small for her mouth, so there are spaces. She wants braces to pull all her teeth together and get rid of the spaces...that's it. Well, anyone who has had to go through a series of braces knows it is not cheap...even with insurance (as they only cover like 50%). Then, there are the regular visits for this adjustment or that adjustment. BM wants DH to pay 100% for the braces...when we already have paid for SD15's insurance her whole life. Naturally...DH does not have that kind of money, and considering he cannot "find" the time to take her to simply get a cleaning...who do you think he will try to stick with taking her to all of the "adjustment" appointments for the next 2 years? Yeah...I've already flat out told him I'm not doing it! He won't even dare ask BM to find a way to get SD15 to appointments. But here is SD15 thinking she is entitled to this expensive cosmetic procedure, and she has brought it up again. DH told her again he doesn't know if or when he can get it done, and she wasn't happy with the answer (had a huge attitude with DH about it). So that means the next time she goes to BM's....cry, cry..."my teeth make me look ugly and daddy won't do anything about it!"...then BM on the phone cussing DH out! BS19 doesn't have straight teeth (yeah, I know...he is a guy). I don't have straight teeth! Has anyone else noticed that we are living in an age of vanity, where it seems like every kid is being told they need braces, rather than braces being used to correct real issues? Like BD23...had to get them on her (this was before DH and I even married). BD23 had a problem with her baby teeth letting loose...so when her permanent teeth came in, they forced themselves into the same spot. This caused all of her permanent teeth to be turned inward...toward the tongue...and she was chewing on the sides of her teeth and was in great pain because of the pressure put on the teeth because of their wonky angle. Now THIS is a NEED for braces...they were used to pull her teeth into the position they needed to be in so it didn't hurt when she chewed. Seems to me in this society of vanity, you have a little bit of crookedness...oh, run and pay the dentist $1000's! And this is being treated by some as some sort of child abuse if you don't! What is next? Nose jobs and boob jobs for teens?