If I EVER!
Hi Everyone,
I don't want to have to get in a detailed story and bore everyone with my situation..probably same as most of you with teenage stepkids..sometimes just have to vent! Among the gripes - not picking up after themselves, lazy, rude, and think the world revolves around them...to keep the peace I ignore most of it. However, the one that can send me into overdrive is a smart ass mouth that talks back! For the most part I IGNORE the 16 yr old, we don't even talk, but he will try to incite me with a rude, bratty dig every now and then. If I EVER spoke that way to ANY ADULT and my parents found out, they would kill me and then allow that adult to have a hand at me too. It just BLOWS MY MIND and as you might guess, DH would get mad at ME if I told him and not do a thing to stepkid. Never says thank you, hello or goodbye, NOTHING. Just mopes and takes occasional digs now and then. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!!
I think I have the same
Mine is 6 and is already a
Mine is 6 and is already a little shit who makes smart arse remarks. He lies too and dad is so prpud - says it's a sign of intelligence when kids lie.
Not sure I'll last to see the teenage years.
Yes, oh so
Yes, oh so horrible..sometimes I feel bad because he is the BM's spawn and is no wonder he is the way he is. Just like her. And she encourages him to act the way he does to me (I've seen the text messages). So sad, it shouldn't be this hard.
Intelligence? Wait until he
Intelligence? Wait until he lies to his boss.
Pour a glass of water over their heads. The hell with the furniture.
Love it!! That made my day!
Love it!! That made my day!
Hmm, SS17 is at the stage
Hmm, SS17 is at the stage where if we make a joke he does this sarcastic laugh. It drives me NUTS and I think it's so bloody rude!
My SD14 keeps a tally of how
My SD14 keeps a tally of how often her brothers take a shower and brush their teeth. Which we never miss by the way, but she reports this to BM. BM has no custodial right. Never sees them, calls about once a month. That's what they talk about. Not how is it going in school, how are your friends.. no, it's is your step mother making sure they are taking a bath. I love the knife in my back.
I hear you. I get no credit
I hear you. I get no credit for getting them to school on time, fed, cared for, taken on trips, etc. that I've done past ten years...only when he doesn't like something I say (which is not much, because I don't talk to him) he gets on the phone with BM right away and she calls DH to complain about it. GIVE ME A BREAK. The BM is the one feeding his head to treat me like crap just to cause trouble for our household. NOT WORTH IT.
Oh no no no... if SD14 gets
Oh no no no... if SD14 gets rude with me, I do not hold back at all. Giving her lack-of-rules BM credit, she has never once called here to complain about me not allowing her to speak to me like that. I will stand on SD's side if I think she's not being treated fairly and will be the first one to pipe up if her brothers are promised something that she should be too. There is no reason at all for her to give ME an attitude. More than once recently, she's quickly caught herself and apologized before I could start in on her so I know I'm getting somewhere.
You do not have to allow someone to mistreat you. If your DH has a problem with it, he's the one with the problem, not you. A kid learning how to be rude and disrespectful is going to have a hard time with relationships and careers down the road. He's not doing his kid any favors by allowing that.
I appreciate everyone's
I appreciate everyone's feedback, it is much more convoluted and manipulative than I could ever ever describe. DH will never, EVER back me. Never. DH does not parent. They are going to have an extremely difficult life but right now I'm in survival mode until I figure out a way to get OUT OF HERE.
The worst part is, I have
The worst part is, I have disengaged, ignore, and stay away from skids as much as possible. But they create trouble and try to suck me in. I have asked please go away and do not have this conversation with me, and they keep confronting. Today I was gone with my BS all day, and I came in and was asked where something of his was that I know NOTHING about. I told him so. He kept coming at me, saying I know you moved it so just tell me where it is. I asked three times, to not have this conversation with me, I know nothing about it, and he keeps approaching me. I kept repeating, please leave me alone and he will not, so I left the house. He will call his dad and tell him what a B I am, and his dad will call me and ask what I did to the skid. DH will NOT listen to what I explain, he will have that air of doubt like he's not sure I did something or not, and I did NOTHING. They come at ME. This is how convoluted it all is.