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He just came home

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

With ss. I happened to be upstairs in our bedroom. He is now downstairs with ss. Wish he had just stayed away.

toywas's picture

Turn your radio on. Put on a movie. Get on your computer. Disengage and pretend they're NOT there!

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

I'm having a glass of wine now watching a documentary in my room. At least ss said hi when he saw me, this isn't his fault, it is all Dhs. It is torrential rain outside (middle of a storm) otherwise I would go for a walk or do some shopping in the shops to get away from the house for a few hours at least

Orange County Ca's picture

You've been hanging around here for 2 years now so I don't have to tell you that the situation is not going to resolve itself and your husband isn't going to lift a finger when its his son involved. You know about disengaging and I've created a link for you below if you're ready to try it.

If that's isn't your cup of tea and you have no children then its way past time to find another guy without children. Under no circumstance have a child in hopes it will make things better.

http://steptogether.org/disengaging.html

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

Yes I realise it's not healthy he made dinner so I went down for ss sake and spoke to him. I've now gone to a local resturant walked in the storm lol and am having a glass of wine. Just spoke with a friend there who has no skids and a very loving bf. she told me I'm wasting my life with dh I'm beginning to agree

Frustr8d1's picture

I hide all the time even though everyone tells me not to. It has saved my sanity for 6 years. I'm just waiting out the time until SD is gone. BTW, I have SD full time. No BM in her life. Imagine trying to hide in your own house 24/7. :?

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

Can't imagine having skid full time I have mine every weekend and feel I have no life. My friend said to me today you're 31 if u didn't meet dh u would be still living abroad but you're here and he doesn't see your sacrifice. It's so true, this time I'm hiding from hunny, don't even want to see his face. I just want to feel loved. My friend was talking about all the date nights her bf had planned and I felt embarrassed because she knows how shit my relationship is. It really is very embarrassing I won't lie

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

When dh is like this it makes me hate him for wasting All of my late 20s on him and the fact he has two BMs. I can just about accept it when he is loving. When he is like this it makes me hate his guys and want to sign divorce papers in the morning

Frustr8d1's picture

I've been there...almost every other day I'm thinking of divorce papers! My biggest gripe is that DH doesn't fully understand my sacrifice. When we got married, I was a very happy and independent person. I had one adult daughter and felt so much freedom from being done raising a kid. When I met DH, he had a 5 yr old. I told myself NO WAY was I going to sacrifice my whole life and start all over again at Square 1. I'm so dumb. I regret so much. It's just plain hard not to resent the guy who convinced me it wouldn't be "that bad" to raise his daughter part time. It ended up being FULL TIME. BM hasn't seen SD since 2012. I resent myself for being so stupid and naive. My own bio was hard to raise--why the hell would I think some dumb BM's kid wouldn't be harder to raise??

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

I came home, he was tucking ss12 into bed just ignored me went into bed and ignored me, I ignored him just sitting on the couch now watch tv, I'd sleep down here only as would see me in the morning

Just me in a big pool of fish's picture

I love him, I guess I'm just beginning to realise I want more from my life, this has been a night of clairity. I thought being with dh who had two kids he would want the same with me, he doesn't. He's dragging his heels. I'm so unhappy. Time to leave dh.