New here, mother to 2 and have a step child. Husband and I have been together a total of nearly 6 years.
His ex and him have joint custody, with visitation of of 3 weekends a month, with an optional day during the week until 7 pm. They are to meet at an agreed center point. At no point has anything been easy, and I knew going into this marriage that she was going to be more than difficult. She is "engaged" to another man, and they have a child together that is almost a year old. I always figured after she gave birth to another child she would lighten up but unfortunately that was wishful thinking. She does not discuss their child with my husband, she allows her boyfriend to take that responsibility even after being told so that he is not intervene with the child as he is not the parent. Her boyfriend always acts up during each exchange and causes a scene. My step son is scared to come over to our house after the fact because of the things his mother and her boyfriend tell him. They constantly tell my stepson I am a "tramp" that his father is a "dead beat". There have been a fake facebook made with false information. The police have been called on more than one occasion because she isn't getting her way. It could go on forever the amount of ridiculous she produces.
The past 3 weeks however have been unbearable.
She has went has far as to tell my rental office that my children do not live with me, that I do not have custody of them and they are falsely on my lease. Which is not correct at all, and I had to provide proof of school district to avoid getting in to trouble.
Last Tuesday was my husband's optional day and because he refused to meet her at 4:45, she showed up at our residence to pick up her child. (well, her boyfriend drove her as she is 27 and does not know how to drive, and has never had a drivers license) My husband made all 3 kids go in doors because they were riding their bikes, I was at work. They contacted the police, to which was pointless because their court order says 7 pm so they were asked to leave the property.
Today, she refuses to meet at their center point, says there never has been one. My husband gets a friend to ride with him to pick up his son. Upon arriving her boyfriend jumps in my husbands face running his mouth, calling me names, saying he could have me for 20 dollars. His ex is outside with their son, holding him because he is freaking out and looking scared. I know all this because the friend that went with my husband recorded the entire situation. I don't know what the law is in Virginia about video and courts, but this video shows how her boyfriend was begging to be hit, in my husband face so much that he could have kissed him if he puckered his lips, and then proceeded to get in my husband's friend face.
I am fed up.
What can we do in courts, in magistrate, at police station to make our point known that this has gotten out of hand?!?!