I wish I could do that, but we can't all sit in DH's car for things like going to church or anything where all 3 of us are going. Otherwise, if DH has to pick her up from school...it is in his car. And I refuse to go anywhere by myself with her.

I would be, too...but this is something that needs to be shown to DH, because it needs to be known that I will not tolerate it! Not to mention. Putting any kind of food stuff in her room will go unnoticed with the amount of trash and crap she has in there, will only bring forth ants, which I will then have to deal with the screaming coming from SheSloth all through the house as she DEMANDS the bug spray and all...which usually happens when I'm trying to go to sleep. Girl has already had 3 ant infestations in the last 2 months, and each of them were a major event, let me tell you. All happening around 10 p.m. to 11 p.m. at night...at least that is when she throws her fit when DH goes to tell her goodnight, after she claims the ants have been biting her all evening. No, you can't come ask for help with the problem earlier in the evening when you first find the ants...that means getting up and actually coming to tell someone about it. No, she waits until DH goes to her, and then she screams at him to fix it!

Oh I have! His car is a money pit...seriously. Problem is, because he kept having to get new cars without paying off the previous ones, and the fact that it is a known fact that this car is a money pit, he can't get approved for a different car! He has tried new and used...every time..."You are too upside down on your current car for the loan company to approve the note." So, he is stuck with it! Bad thing is, his car payment is $200/month more than mine, and I have the dependable car! But he just had to have his current car. UGH! In the last year, he has had to have a new engine, new clutch, new catalytic converter, new brakes, it needs new tires like every 8 months, etc. There is always something with that stupid car! Believe me...I want it gone, but until he can pay it down enough to not be upside down on it, that isn't happening!

When he got it, SheSloth was not a permanent fixture...as in, we did not have her full time, and we often only got her one weekend a month.

I have done my best to ban food in the car. If we are out and about, we eat it in. I've also been making sure that we have started leaving earlier on Sunday morning to actually sit at Starbucks and have our breakfast, as SheSloth was always leaving crumbs and trash in the back seat. The bread was something that DH gave SheSloth to eat at home, and I guess she shoved it in her purse, and then later it got left in the door of my car. She tends to do that...sits back there cleaning out her purse, and leaves all the junk from her purse in the door of my car. The last time I heard her getting gum from her purse in the back seat, I told her not to chew gum in my car. She asked why, and I said, "Because you ALWAYS leave your gum wrappers in the door!" She argued that she didn't, but sure enough...she has been sneaking gum from her purse when I'm not looking, and leaving the wrappers in the door. I don't buy her gum, but she always manages to talk DH into it..."You know if I don't have gum I chew the inside of my mouth!" THEN STOP CHEWING THE INSIDE OF YOUR MOUTH!

She used to also put her makeup on in my car. I put an end to that real quick when I would find makeup on my seats. Thank goodness they are leather and I have a good leather cleaner.

Bottom line is the girl is a lazy slob, and has no respect for anyone's stuff! She doesn't even respect her own stuff, as is evident by the state of her room, and the multiple phones/electronics she has been through over the last couple of years! Why take care of anything, when you can just sweet talk daddy into replacing it or buying your more stuff? Of course, that has been getting squashed on a lot lately!

At BM's house, it has always been "whatever". BM is quite the slob herself! Their house would not even be cleaned if BM's husband didn't clean it!

But, no...DH never backed me when it came to SheSloth and her slobness...still doesn't! When she was little, it was always excuses that she was too little to clean up after herself, and he would clean for her. Just leave your plates on the table...daddy will pick it up! She had to clean her room, DH would call over his sister and mother to help her clean! So, living 90+% of the time at BM's and being treated like a baby whenever she did come to our house has turned her into a lazy slob! Now that she is with us full time, I can tell her until I'm blue in the face, but it never changes! Seriously...the plate issue was covered for about the billionth time just a week ago! She was TOLD "when you make a sandwich, make it on a plate, and if you make any mess, clean it up!" She is 15!!! So what does she do last night? Another sandwich made ON THE COUNTER leaving the mess behind that would normally be confined to the plate...had she used one! Because BM and DH let her do whatever she wanted, and whenever I tried to tell her anything I was never backed, she continues to do whatever she wants...and does things the laziest way possible!

BWAHAHAHA! That would make her scream! I'm seriously surprised I didn't end up with an ant problem in my car! They have been everywhere all of a sudden the last few weeks...must be that we finally got rain or something. My cat's food I keep in an igloo cooler with a weighted ball on it (because the cats got smart enough to figure out how to open the cooler). Somehow, those little buggers found the cat food, and was all in the cooler...had to have found just a pinhole crack to get into! Luckily, I had not put the new bag of food in there yet. Had to spray all around the utility room...every corner, around the door, under the sink, behind the dryer...anywhere I could think of where there was a crack of any kind they could come back in. If they could find that cat food from outside, I know they could have found the bread in the car! That would have been quite the pain to clean up!

Supposedly, there is a church service south of the city specifically for the deaf that the ASL club goes to. The whole "expedition' is headed up by the very young ASL teacher that I have serious issues with...the one who is living at the ex-boyfriend's house, and who took SheSloth out for a mani-pedi and Starbucks when they broke up last year.

But seriously...the whole lick a finger to rub stuff off the counter thing just grossed me out completely! Is the girl that much of a lazy slob? How could she even think that is acceptable?

Their solution when it is too full is to tie the bags and leave the in the kitchen next to the trash, because they know that the critters will get to it. Oh hell no! Not with the way the ands have been lately, and you know me and smells.

SheSloth does everything about a slow as a sloth! Sheeesh! Sunday mornings are painful! She spends more time messing with her phone or her music than she spends getting ready. So, we are ready to go, and she still doesn't have shoes on. Watching the girl put shoes on...OMG! She puts on a sock and takes like 2 minute to arrange the sock right on her foot. Then she will put on a shoe, and spends the next 3 minutes tying the laces and stuffing them in the shoes...because in this day and age, you simply can't have the loops hanging out! Then, we have to wait for the whole process on the other foot. Walking to the door...dragging her feet, smallest steps possible. Girl has NO sense of urgency about anything! I would tell DH to just leave her, but that would be what she wants, as it is obvious by her that church is the last place she wants to be. That, and I don't trust her home alone!

Whenever she is told to do something...it is done half-assed, or you get "I'll get to it"...which she never does until you tell her yet again and again.

Unfortunately, it is sounding like SheSloth brought her grades up just in the nick of time. Supposedly turned in some work that she had 0's for. Seriously, teachers are wimps these days! These kids have no urgency to do their work, because in reality, the teacher will accept it at any point in the grading period! I miss the way it was when I was in school...you had like 2-3 days TOPS to turn something in late...and the later, the more points docked. After that, the teacher wouldn't even accept it! There was none of this crap with teachers going through the gradebook with you and telling you what your missing assignments were and giving you one last opportunity to turn it in for a 70% or what ever. No, you were responsible for keeping up with your assignments and getting them turned in when they were due!