Maybe it's more important to Me.

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My OBS is a senior this year. Over the last three years his social circle has dwindled. I've noticed from his fb that his "friends" aren't all that great of friends. I've even thrown him parties to get him to socialize more and no one has shown up. I've been worried about it but I've tried to keep out of it because what 17 year old needs his mommy to come in and rescue him.
The other night I was asking him about Homecoming.
Me- Hey, have you asked anyone to homecoming?
OBS- Nope, not going to.
Me- Why not?
OBS- I don't really care about going to homecoming. I don't think I want to go to prom either.
Me- Really? Why not? You only get one senior year son.
OBS- Yeah, well I don't care about it all that much. I'm only going because you're forcing me to.
Me- Oh, I didn't realize I was forcing it on you, ok if you don't want to go then you don't have to.
He use to be all about school functions. All about his friends and doing all the school activities. I'm not sure what happened. I don't want to force him to go but I'm worried he's going to regret it big time once he gets older.
Any advice?

Two things come to mind

Two things come to mind immediately

1) He is having social issues at school, being bullied or left out, which is having him avoid social issues at all costs.
2) Drugs. I am sorry to have to say this: but drug test him. When normally social kids, cut their social circles way back, avoid being social with friends etc: there is a reason and this is the #1 reason.

There is a number three.
And that is depression. Kids who are depressed will also withdraw and stop caring. Hibernate in their rooms etc. Do some research online on signs of depression in teens, do the check list and if you see red flags, take him to a therapist.

Another issue some (my BS) had was a gaming addiction. He dropped all his "IRL" (in real life friends) and played video games online and ONLY socialized online with his online buddies... right up until the day I canceled the internet service and locked him out of the house to get some sun. Video game addiction IS real. And withdrawl from family and friends is a sign of addiction, be it drugs or games...

I've drug tested him, it

I've drug tested him, it always comes back clean. I know his friend who he's been very close with has recently dropped off the face of the planet.
Dropped out of school, moved in with an adult drug dealer when he was 17, does drugs himself.
I have been looking at getting him into counseling though. Thank You.

The change does seem odd.

The change does seem odd. Does he seem depressed?

I wonder if something happened between him and his friends or a girl or something along those lines?

I've wondered myself, snooped

I've wondered myself, snooped through his phone, fb, and email. Can't seem to find much. He's not talking to many people these days.
His girlfriend did move away last year. I know he was very attatched to her, but he seemed to take it very well. I don't want to dig too much though.

His father is very

His father is very introverted, I was quite social but with a very small group of friends for many years. After I married DH I found my "friends" had a problem with me having a life with someone and weeded my garden. DH and I often just hang out together now, socializing very little. We even talk often about getting land in the country and just avoiding people in general.
My middle son who was once a shut in is now a complete social butterfly. It's almost as if they switched positions in life. Although OBS does't stay in his room all the time. He's does socialize with us alot.