Should 7 year olds wipe their own bottoms?
Hi, am having a long skid weekend. It's school holidays where I live so Skids are here for a bit.
My skids are 5 and 7 and boy are they annoying. i have an 8 month old daughter and i swear sometimes I'm not sure if it's my baby or my SS7 crying because he cries like a baby over EVERYTHING. When he starts to cry, his sister feeds off it and it all turns to custard.
they go through moments of complete inacapacity. They can't dress themselves, they want to be fed, they want to be passed their galss of water...and SS7 has his bottom wiped by his dad - my partner.
It sounds petty but this weekend seeing my partner wipe his son's bottom all weekend made me realise the kids are cripped because they are spolit. But are they? Or am I just being harsh.
Do your 7 year olds wipe their own bottoms after toileting? Just wondering.
I have a 7 year old boy and
I have a 7 year old boy and he has been wiping his own backside for at least 3 years that I remember. Admittedly he sometimes and I mean only sometimes, doesn't do a thorough job when he is in a rush but he does wipe it himself.
You Skids sound like so many others, feeding off the stupidity of their father's and making life just that tad more difficult for the SMothers....
Yes, he should definitely be
Yes, he should definitely be wiping on his own. I think my 7 year old would rather die this an have me help him in the bathroom
Yeah, my 5 year old has been
Yeah, my 5 year old has been wiping himself for about a year. At 7? Dad is doing is kid no favors. What on earth does the kid do when he goes to school? Walk around with poop in his underwear?!?
"Snorkle." Sorry. I just had
"Snorkle." Sorry. I just had to snort while I read about your 7 yr old.
Yes, you are correct ... unless SS's have serious developmental delays, they should BOTH be caring for personal hygiene on their own. It probably is a hold-over from baby days and their mutual desire to reinforce their connection. Whatever. Too deep for me this morning.
Although in an aside: I used to call ex-DH "skidmark" for a reason. (evil laugh)
My 7 yr old Granddaughter
My 7 yr old Granddaughter would die of embarrassment before letting someone wipe her, she takes her own showers for goodness sake! Wth does he do at school, ask the teacher?
I've asked that same question
I've asked that same question and he says he holds it in until he gets home. bizzarre.
My 3 year old nephew wipes his own bottom which is super cute but you have to take him back to the bathroom just to make sure he has done a good job each time. But the kid has got the right idea unlike my snooty skids.
Thank you for your responses.
Thank you for your responses. I thoufght as much - that it's only right for 7 year olds to wipe their own bottoms. It teaches a child to be independent and have some pride. It's only in the last 2 days that I've insisted he closes the door when in the toilet as he stinks up the entire(small) house then calls out to his dad to say 'I'm finished".
We have them for another 2 weekends and the 3rd weekend Ive decided to go out of town to visit my parents. I couldn't stand the whining and crying again.
Dad thinks he is letting the kids enjoy their visitation. whatever! I've already told him /I'll never leave him with our baby while he has the skids because it's as good as him looking after 3 babies. Oh and the skids share a room, so while one is shitting the house down the other is crying because they don't want to by themselves in the room. I'm going to church this morning because Lord I need forgiveness for the thoughts I've had about those kids!!!
Well I am sure as hell not
Well I am sure as hell not going to wipe a 7yo's ass ... or a five year old's ass for that matter.
Yes, a 7yo wipes his/her own ass.
My Skid was wiping his own ass at 4ish. He was mostly toilet trained and wiping himself at 3ish but when he would go to Sperm Land on DipShitIot visitation he would come home in a loaded diaper with butt rash so bad he had puss filled welts on his butt cheeks and his anus was so raw it would bleed when we cleaned him up.
I had to threaten to sue them for endangering a child if they did not get on board with potty training on visitation time.
But...."We don't have time to potty train him." His potty training took much longer than it should have because of his Sperm Idiot and the rest of the adult Sperm Clan.
Fucking morons!!!
The judge climbed their asses when he saw the pics of the kid's ass and the doctors report of how dirty, nasty, and unwashed he was upon return from several Sperm Land visitations.
Your partner is doing his children no favors by wiping their asses for them at 5 & 7.
IMHO of course.
Good luck.
Yes....7 is plenty old enough
Yes....7 is plenty old enough to know how to wipe. My kids were wiping their own butts at 3 and 4 years old.
God!
Question: Does he have
Question: Does he have deformed arms?
Ask your DH how long he intends wiping his kids bottom. And who does he think does it when SS is at school?
Something it MAY be is a little ritual he does with his Dad. Some kids get Dad to read to them every night. Some get to have time in the garden with Dad. Or Dad sits with him watching some stupid TV show they both love. So maybe Dad needs to find some other way to bond with his son... Eweww
My BD7 wipes herself and
My BD7 wipes herself and showers/baths herself too...I have recently taught her how to wash her own hair without the need for half a bottle of shampoo!! She is actually really quite good re personal hygiene, and if ever she is unsure about wiping or if she has done it properly, she gets the baby wipes that I still buy and uses them to be sure......SD7 on the other hand does not do any of the above and still shouts out for help....her hygiene does not exist and no matter how many times I tell or show her, it doesnt sink in...
At 7, children should defo be able to understand and do their own hygiene with minimal assistance....
My 3 year old wipes his own
My 3 year old wipes his own butt and uses 1 baby wipe to make sure it is all clean. My SD10 was having her butt wiped at 6 by my SO. I haven't mentioned it to him but do wonder if he has noticed that our 3 year old is far more independent than his daughter was at that age.
Ditto here..... SD15 used to
Ditto here.....
SD15 used to lie in her bed and CRY when she was 5-6 to be picked up and carried to the toilet at night!! It would have gone on longer but by then SD14 started doing it also....couldn't carry the 2 of them.....SD12, who seemed them most stunted at the time was the only one, at age 3+ who used to take herself to the toilet at night.
In the end, I said no drinks before bed
I'm dealing with this very
I'm dealing with this very issue now. Skid is 6 years old and he's started first grade, but he still calls out to my DH to help him wipe his butt. I've been with my DH since the skid was 4. I can understand this behavior at 4, but at 6 no way. Especially since my DH made such a big deal out of how the biomom did such a great job of toilet training him :sick: Umm, yeah right. If he can't wipe his own butt, he's not completely toilet trained.
The skid claims he just doesn't go at school, but apparently he doesn't ask the biomom to wipe him either. And since we only see him every other weekend, I guess he's either holding it for two weeks or he's manipulating my DH to do it for him, which is so weird. If I was in his shoes, I'd be manipulating for toys or candy, not butt wipes. Each time this happens now I say something about it. Largely because I can't keep my mouth shut, but also because it grosses me out to the nth degree. It's my house too and I don't want to hear about the skid's bathroom dysfunctions all day. My DH claims he's just doing a spot check because he doesn't want the skid going home with skids marks, but I told him that he should let that happen because it will teach the skid how to wipe properly pretty damn quick.
I can't wait for November when I don't have to see the skid for a month. Woo hoo! Sadly I'm sure that month will pass too quickly, but at least it will be both skid and skid mark free.
I reckon my 7 year old SKId
I reckon my 7 year old SKId just does t to manipulate his dad. I doubt BM wipes his butt.
I was super upset when I asked my partner to throw out our 8 month old's poos into the loo(because they are solid it's better to just tip them into the loo rather than stinking the bin)
He refused!! Scrunched up his face and said ewww, that's disgusting why would I want to do that?? The stuff was already wrapped up in a wad of baby wipes so not like he was handling a piece of stool. refuses to do that for an 8 month old who can't do anything for herself but is more than happy to wipe his 7 year olds butt. Some things are so disappointing. Hope he keeps wiping his but till his 12 - then i can have the confirmnation that BM, skids and my partner are all mad.
I'm pretty sure that my DH
I'm pretty sure that my DH and the BM are mad. As a side note the BM has a Pinterest board entitled, "For the baby I might someday have," which she updates regularly. And all I can think is that perhaps you should focus on the kid you currently have and the fact that at 6 he isn't capable of wiping his own ass. Sometimes I just have to laugh at the stupidity.
I've told DH that he'll just be wiping the skid's butt until he's 25 and that I hope he's okay with that.