OMG...He FINALLY made a dental appt for her
It isn't until January, but DH finally got around to making a dental appointment for SheSloth, and he is taking her. Will be interesting to see what the x-rays reveal. I'm hoping it doesn't end up costing to much money. It is supposed to be for a standard cleaning, but with her purging and such, who knows what is going on in that mouth. All I know is she has some funk mouth going on. Hope DH starts saving up some money!
And on the eating front, the lack of quick snacks and junk food is driving SheSloth crazy! She has actually managed to eat all the cereal, because she does not want to eat anything healthy. She has been eating it dry. I got crackers for chili I made for this week, but they are not in their usual spot (put them in the back of the spice cabinet, so she will never find them). DH told SheSloth to have some chili last night...he had a sandwich because he had eaten a late lunch. When we got back from the gym, DH asked her what she ate. SheSloth said a little chili and some cheese. A little chili is right! I had chili for dinner a bit ago, and it didn't look like it had been touched since I got a helping yesterday! If she had any, it was maybe 1-2 bites drowned in shredded cheese (as there was enough cheese missing for a full bowl of chili). On Monday, she only had a sandwich and a handful of dry cereal. Tonight is another left-over night, so it will be interesting to see if she eats at all. I logged in to put money on her lunch account today (the only thing I still do, because I don't trust DH to not give her extra money for candy and stuff), and it was obvious she has been skipping lunches. I put exactly the amount to get her to our next pay period in her lunch account each pay period...no more, no less. There was a considerable amount left in her account today...and since she has had no absences in the last 2 weeks, that means she has been skipping lunch!
Shame her appointment isn't until January, but it will be wonderful if the dentist comes back with concerns that her enamel is too thin. When DH comes to me and tells me about it, I'll just look at him and say, "So, do you still believe she isn't making herself throw up when she disappears to the bathroom after eating for 10-15 minutes? Because that is what causes that!"
Honestly, I feel sorry for
Honestly, I feel sorry for this kid. She's making herself throw her food up? BM probably isn't a great parent...and neither is DH.
I think you should assign no blame to her and all to DH (and BM). Maybe if they were better parents their kid wouldn't have so many issues.
Anorexia and bulimia are
Anorexia and bulimia are psychological disorders that adults also suffer from. Should we blame their parents too?
The blame for DH and BM is for not taking this illness seriously.
I will admit that BM did jack
I will admit that BM did jack as a parent over the first 13 years of SheSloth's life, and DH didn't help much because he just wanted his daughter to WANT to come see him on weekends (he was lucky if he saw her one weekend a month because there was always some excuse made by BM why SheSloth couldn't or didn't want to come...they've been apart since just before SheSloth's 1st birthday because BM wanted to be with other guys...yes plural).
SheSloth is one of those that NEEDS to be the center of attention (joins anything that puts her on "center stage", so much that she threw a huge fit until she got a guard "solo" which is only 20 seconds of her waving her flag by herself)...and she is very, very vain! Her looks are of top priority to her, before anything else! Hair, makeup, etc...always need to be on point! As much as I tried over the years to get SheSloth to eat healthy foods (I've been around since she was 1), she will only eat junk. Well, junk food causes weight gain, and she just can't be "fat". Now, granted, SheSloth is not what you would call skinny, and she hates it, but she doesn't want to do things about it the right way...that is too much work! That means she would actually have to get off of her back side and do something, and she really likes laying around as much as possible! That would also mean eating healthy food like lean meat, vegetables, etc...but in her words, "I'm a KID, and KIDS don't like vegetables!!!" (this was something she said just last year at age 14). So, how does she attempt to lose weight so that one day she may be "skinny"? She goes through periods of starvation and bingeing! She will eat as little as possible for as long as she can stand. Whenever she is "forced" to eat (which is DH finally getting fed up with her not eating and telling her she will sit down and eat something), she will disappear immediately after the meal to the bathroom for 10-15 minutes. If there is any kind of junk food around...say we went out to eat, or DH had snack food around the house, she will stuff herself with the junk food (because she LOVES her junk food), and then immediately disappear to the bathroom. She will even do this at a restaurant! People have noticed, and have said things to DH...as have I. DH will ask SheSloth about the purging, she denies it, he believes her and goes on.
Keep in mind this girl will also stuff herself into clothing that is not the right size for the sake of saying she wears a smaller size. This even goes for shoes!!! There was a whole argument in a store last weekend between DH and SheSloth as she insisted that she wore a size 6 shoe when it was determined some time ago when her foot was properly measured that she wears a 7! It was nearly an hour of stuffing her feet into size 6's and DH pointing out that her toes were curling into the end of the shoe before he finally told the girl that she was getting a size 7 and that was that! We have the same problem buying her clothing, "I'm a small!!!" No, when you wear a small it is skin tight with the girls about to bust out at any moment...you are a M/L depending on the shirt! "I'm a size 4!!" No, you are an 8, and you wear your pants under your gut like a guy does which is far from flattering! Seriously, I think that is one of the reasons the girl always wants to wear leggings as pants...because they stretch, so she can "get away" with a smaller size...even if she stretches them so thin they are see-through! I'm told all the time by DH that I need to teach SheSloth how to dress, and I have to remind him that I have many, many times over the years, but she is NOT going to listen to me, because she wants to do it HER way!