DH about done with SD
DH has about had it with HHB AND BM! He has tried a few times to contact them this past week, and both have been ignoring him. DH is also really not happy about MIL's reports that HHB continues to ignore her. Bad thing is, HHB is due in court this week and...well...today is the first of the month (which means BM will start texting DH as soon as she wakes up tomorrow asking him when he will be by with the child support...which isn't due until the 10th)! DH is so done with being ignored unless HHB wants/needs something that he is saying he doesn't feel very inclined to help get HHB and BM to court this week! Yeah...he will probably still give them a ride just to keep HHB from being in further trouble, but I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't...he is that mad!
It is seeming like DH doesn't even expect HHB to ever come for a visit. While we were on our outing (we did end up driving south to the zoo, and took in a couple of other activities while there that I hadn't been to in forever), I pointed out that being by ourselves now, there are all kinds of outings we can do now! I suggested that we get some friends together and go on a wine tasting weekend. He agreed that sounded like fun. While he usually would say, "As long as as we don't have SD that weekend." Not a word about HHB! Even later when I said, "We need to come back in a couple months when the butterfly exhibit is open." I fully expected DH to say that maybe then HHB could go with us. Nope!!! Instead, DH says, "Maybe we can get a group together." And then started naming off our friends!
Yup...he's done!!!
Exactly!!! DH started
Exactly!!! DH started learning the word "no", and HHB has no need for him...well, outside of a ride to court this week! Nomore just calling dad and making his m give in with threats! He doesn't care about the threats any more! They used to hold seeing HHB over his head, but now that he sees the girl for what she really is, that threat doesn't mean much any more!
Great news! How liberating to
Great news! How liberating to have those shackles of hell severed. Feels good when you have those moments. Balloons! Confetti! Fireworks!
(whispering in a very voice now: just don't be too off guard when he backslides)
Couldn't wait until
Couldn't wait until tomorrow...BM already texting about the child support! First of the month...not due for over a week now! DH planned on giving it to her when he had to take them to court...I mean, why make a special trip when he is going to see BM before the due date anyway, right? Well, if you are BM, you need it right now! Of course, DH told her she can wait until court day (love that he is finally standing his ground). He left a nice little message telling HHB that she is about to lose her phone...he isn't paying for her to have a phone to talk to her little friends. He is paying for a phone so he can talk to her! Will be interesting if that makes her respond. If not, I would love to see DH cut the phone off! That would be awesome!
And for anyone new to the saga, court day is for juvenile/traffic court...not family court. HHB got herself in some trouble driving without a license after she moved out of our house because she is allowed to do whatever she wants at BM's...and there are rules here!
Good for DH! Let BM pay for a
Good for DH! Let BM pay for a go phone or something!!!
~ Moon
Yay for your DH!! That is
Yay for your DH!! That is awesome!! So glad he seems to have located his missing balls! woo hoo!
HHB quickly got back with DH
HHB quickly got back with DH after that message! Like I said...only if she wants/needs something! Sure enough, HHBhas been at her girlfriend's house all weekend! I could tell HHB was being short with DH on the phone...he even said, "So I'm only going to get short answers like I some asshole bugging the hell out of you!"
After the call, DH volunteers that BM doesn't see any issue with HHB staying overnights at her girlfriend's house! BM said she is pretty sure HHB has already been having sex with whoever for a while and "she just got tired of the sausage"! That is exactly what DH said she told him. No big deal? Um...what about the fact that emo is 18 and HHB is still 15 for another month still! Doesn't matter if she is ALMOST 16 (age of consent in my state), she is STILL 15 and ANY 18+ year old having any kind of sex with her is committing statutory rape! I know HHB stayed the night at emo's house...emo tagged HHB in a post so it shows on her page...something about HHB bringing her breakfast in bed and being the best girlfriend! Could be interesting if HHB hasn't come out to everyone yet! Now MIL will know...let the fun start!
Really quite a story. That's
Really quite a story. That's some soap opera going on. I guess some of these other people are finally going to have to start realizing what you saw a loooong time ago.
HHB thinks she knows it all
HHB thinks she knows it all (I know...what teen doesn't). BM is useless and clueless. Recipe for destruction!! People don't get that when one looks in from the outside, they can see things that those involved simply can't. I tried to tell DH for some time...now he apologizes for not listening...even admitted he was blinded. They say hind sight is 20/20!
Welcome to the wonderful
Welcome to the wonderful world of premature empty nest status. My bride and I, though we did nto enter this blissful stage in life prematurely, are loving our kid free existence.
The Skid is doing well, we are having a great time, and the toothless drooling drama of the Sperm Clan is far behind us.
Life is good.
Enjoy!!!!!!
I'm so waiting for the
I'm so waiting for the fallout from HHB's girlfriend "outing" her on social media. I don't know who all HHB told that she is bisexual/lesbian (I'm not sure if she is done with guys completely, or is just going back and forth to get what she wants). I know that DH's family has not been told anything...so this will be quite the shock to my MIL and others. There are also the kids at school...not sure how many are following her on social media. Everyone is out of school today, and things could be interesting tomorrow. I don't think the girl has a clue what she is getting into!
So far, it seems it is still on for DH to take HHB and BM to court on Thursday morning. Who knows what that will bring! Praying DH doesn't get stuck having to pay crap...in other words, ME getting stuck having to pay for the crap because DH is already at the end of his paycheck with his obligations. Yes...it would have to be him paying, but that would mean less that he is contributing to his half of the household stuff which I in turn will have to cover! I have my own to worry about...hello...son in college? UGH!
I did think it funny when DH finally did talk to HHB yesterday. I heard him ask her about her grades, and then tell her that she needed to work on getting those up if she wanted to get into a good school. He also mentioned that she needs to start figuring out what she wants to do with her life. Seriously? Does he really think that girl could cut it in college? She can't cut it now! I chuckled to myself, as I'm pretty sure college is not in this kid's future!
We already have researched
We already have researched the options for HHB's trouble. Yes, he will be making sure that community service or tutoring is requested. Of course, after that, the issue is HHB getting in to do her community service. I mean, she has about a billion and one excuses for not having visits with DH! She pulled the "homework" excuse on him this weekend. I find it strange that she suddenly has so much homework, when she never did before. The girl is not in any kind of advanced courses or anything like that. Lying her ass off as usual...knew she had a 3-day weekend, and wanted to spend it with her girlfriend! She knows DH does not like the idea, so he would never let her go with the girl to hang out. Hope HHB can pull herself away from her girlfriend long enough to do those hours of community service! And I was looking...they are very specific about the community service. They have a set list of options, and it looks like they ALL involve service for the less fortunate...food pantry, etc. Girl isn't going to like it one bit!
She may like the attention from the shock, but we all know there will be some negative attention! Even with the LGBT community getting more rights and acceptance, there are still a lot of haters out there, and we live in the county known as the "bible thumper" county...lots of strong conservatives. I pretty sure at least half the people she runs into will not be so accepting of her lifestyle.
Cant, what were her excuses
Cant, what were her excuses to stay after school when she was into sausage?
Regardless, who cares what her excuses to NOT come over are?? Too bad she doesn't have one of those restricted access phones that ONLY allows her to call your DH and BM. Bahahahahaaaaa!!!
I just think how funny it is
I just think how funny it is that BM is so flippant about it all. You are pretty sure your 15 year old is having sex...has been having sex...and this doesn't bother you in the least? Especially when she is currently dating an 18 year old WOMAN? Yes...WOMAN...at 18, she is an adult, and HHB is still considered a child!
From the sounds of it, HHB has been spending MOST nights over at emo's...even school nights...and emo takes her to school. I don't know how emo's parents could allow it. I mean, sure...two females, they can't get each other pregnant...but I still wouldn't allow them to be having sex under my roof. Now, that everything is out there, I'm pretty sure they were having sex under my roof, and that really ticks me off! Seriously, just disrespectful, in my opinion! Of course, you also have to consider that emo's parents got her a new car after HHB wrecked the other one! Sounds to me like they are just as irresponsible as BM, so it is conceivable that they would allow HHB to be basically a "live in girlfriend" for their daughter. BM probably allows it because, well, it gets the girl out of her house, and she doesn't have to actually parent...or listen to her husband complain about HHB's crap!
DH told her if she wants to keep her phone, she needs to be sure to respond to his calls and texts. We will see how this goes. I would love nothing more than turn that thing off!
SD18 lost her cherry at 14.
SD18 lost her cherry at 14. Under BioHo's roof. With BioHo's approval. With 24yo man. DH didn't find out until her older half-sister told him 2 years ago. Take into consideration that BioHo lost hers at age 9 when she seduced a 12 yo...
I just had bile rise to my
I just had bile rise to my mouth reading this.
I just had bile rise to my
I just had bile rise to my mouth reading this.
Oooooo, if only I could do
Oooooo, if only I could do that without getting into big trouble with DH...LOL. It wouldn't be to difficult to do! I would just have to make 1 phone call!!! It was metro PD that gave HHB the tickets, and my BIL is metro PD! But, yeah...I would get into so much trouble if I did that.
Wednesday night I'm definitely going to be sure to remind DH that there is no money for fines, and he needs to make sure BM signs any and all paperwork.