I am a teen with divorced parents, and I need to tell my dad I've had enough

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Let me take you back to what started. In 2007, a friend of mine died from Cancer. We were both 5 years old at the time. His parents, were great friends with my parents. Everyone was so sad, and we are still sad to this day.

Now, resume to July of 2015. My friend's mother applied for a job at UK Hospital. She never got an offer, so she was thinking about being a traveling nurse (she would have been away for 3 months each time). Before she went to being a traveling nurse, UK called her and offered her a job there. She accepted it. I live in Lexington Kentucky, and UK Hospital is in Lexington. She & her husband live in Kentucky, but they live almost 2 hours away. She cannot drive 2 hours to work every other day, so she asked my father if she could stay at our house. I didn't really have a problem with it, other than the fact that I had to sleep on the couch because she was sleeping in my room.

Now, my father and step-mother decided me sleeping on the couch wasn't good. They talked it over. One day UPS came to our door, and dropped off a very large, and long box. I looked at the label, and it said it was a bunk bed. I figured my dad was going to have my little brother and my little sister share a room. Turns out I was wrong. My dad was having me share a room with my little brother. This is where I find it unsuitable. My little brother is FIVE years old, and he's in KINDERGARTEN. I am THIRTEEN years old, and I am in the EIGHTH GRADE. Doesn't this seem unreasonable? I'm a teenager. I shouldn't be having to share a room with him. I need my own privacy, where I can study peacefully, and invite people over. I cannot get sleep, because he wakes up at 6:00 AM on weekdays, AND WEEKENDS. He throws stuffed animals at my face, annoys me to the point where I wake up, and it's all getting worse. I cannot have friends over, because my floor is always covered in Legos, Thomas The Trains, etc. It's embarrassing. I used to have my own room. At this point, I hate coming to my dad's house. At my mom's house, I have my own room, my own bathroom & shower, and my own walk-in closet (my mom and step-dad are very wealthy). I woulrather spend every day at my mom's house than come to my dad's, because of this. I split the week half and half with my mom and dad.

Before we started sharing rooms, he told me he didn't want me to feel stressed and let my grades plummet because of this. He said if I was done, and couldn't take anymore, to tell him and he'd ask my deceased friend's mom and dad to move out. My mom told me I needed to tell him, or else she'd take him to court (and believe me, she always wins).

I want to confront my dad, but I don't know what to say. Any advice?

If having the friend's mom

If having the friend's mom stay at your dad's house means you have to share a room with your brother, I would think dad would tell her she has to move out.

I don't think a 13 year old girl not wanting to share a room with a 5 year old boy is bratty. :?

Moving On....Why is she

Moving On....Why is she spoiled and ungrateful just for wanting some privacy?

OP....is there any way you can go back to your mom's?

Yes..tell dad you need a

Yes..tell dad you need a room. I am amazed he thinks this is ok. I could see if it was only a few days a month but not when you spend half the time there.

And good greif....you are not being a brat. NOONE wants to room with a 5 year old.

Just tell your dad you really need/want your own room. It is up to him, how he wants to make that happen.

Totally, Totally disagree.

Totally, Totally disagree. The 13 year-old is a child, and not an adult. Adults get to set the rules at their homes, and not children. The first poster here, was the most accurate so far, although it could have been stated nicer. BUT, I also feel this was written by an adult and not a 13-year-old. Clue, the stmt. "and believe me, she always wins" re: bio-mom.

Sure the adults get to set

Sure the adults get to set the rules. But it takes a pretty crappy parent to make a 5 year old boy and 13 year old girl share a room in order to provide a room for a grown ass, unrelated man and woman.

There's nothing wrong with the kid telling her dad(in a polite tone) how she feels.

Um. . ., read below. It is a

Um. . ., read below. It is a boy and a boy sharing a room together. I don't know where you grew up, but where I grew up, it was nothing for two boys or two girls to share a room together regardless of age, and I grew up in the US. You are right, it is okay for the BOY to tell his dad how he feels, but he should have no expectations that daddy is going to accommodate him. Makes much more sense for the same gender kids to share than two opposite gender kids to share, regardless of age.

Um....read below, I responded

Um....read below, I responded to that.

she writes this post. (My mom

she writes this post. (My mom and stepdad are wealthy and My mom ALWAYS wins.) You dad not being rich does not make him a horrible person
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She said that her dad was horrible becuase he was not rich? No she did not. And the other stuff may just be the truth. smdh.

Why do some ALWAYS have to jump the new people!? Very frustrating.

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". He said if I was done, and

". He said if I was done, and couldn't take anymore, to tell him and he'd ask my deceased friend's mom and dad to move out"

So both this woman and her husband live at your fathers house every other day? Does your deceased friend's father work in Lexington too? I'd think it was very kind of Dad and SM to have them as houseguest initially, but since July? Time for Dad's guest to either move to Lexington or rent a room in a boarding house.

Forget the toys. Toys are just part of little boys. Toys aren't the issue. However, I'll ask why your brother isn't required to clean his room? Can you imagine the fit Dad and SM would throw if you kept your things scattered all over the floor? Anyway... at male five and a female 13 both deserve space away from each other. He needs to be five and you need to be 13 and have privacy. As the actual houseguest are long due on making a more perm. arrangement for themselves in their new area, it's time they did so. Your Dad and SM's generosity has been running long enough. Your fathers home isn't large enough to accommodate his family and his out of town visitors long term.

No 13 year old wrote this.

Doesn't matter to me if its

Doesn't matter to me if its really a 13 yr old girl's actual post or a faker BM. My advice would be the same.

Even if mom wrote it, the

Even if mom wrote it, the complaint is a valid one.

I guess I have different

I guess I have different views on this than the majority. Sure you can bring it up and discuss it. However if I was the parent I'd quietly listen then promptly tell you until you contribute to the household or help pay for the mortgage then you really have no say in rooming arrangements.

A 13 year old does not get to dictate my household. I'm also not a believer in every child deserves their own room though so I seem to differ a lot from most people here.

Oh and people keep referring to this person as a she but I see no where referring to themselves as such. I assume if they placed the little boy to room with them that they are a male and not a female otherwise wouldn't it be the younger sister that would be bunking with them?

That is exactly what I was

That is exactly what I was about to say. I got the feeling it was a male. They wanted the boys to be together. What is wrong with that?! But, I'm not a millenial. I don't have that sense of entitlement like I'm a King in any house I'm in and everyone else, including the adults, are my subjects.

BrennanBlondeKid you'll find

BrennanBlondeKid you'll find in life that most of the problems that we agonize over and worry about can be solved by talking to the people involved. Being able to have a seemingly difficult conversation with someone without it turning into an argument or a one-sided list of all the reasons that person has hurt you or done wrong by you is a life skill. Now is a good time to start practicing it and learning how to do it.

That conversation should take place at a time when you can both focus on the topic and are not stressed by something else or bringing up the topic to win points or in the middle of an argument. Try to be extra considerate about the words you use to open the conversation and really listen to the responses you get and take them on board. A good opener would be something along the lines of..."Dad, I don't mind friends living in the house with us but I am finding it quite stressful to share a room with my brother. I feel very awkward not having any privacy and not having my own space to be able to relax in and keep how I like. Is there a way that we can work around the situation so that brother and I don't have to share any longer?" Then let him respond, give him time to think it over. If he asks for time to think of a solution give him that. If he offers solutions consider them, even the ones that don't sound good to you initially. If he says he doesn't want to talk about it right now ask him when a better time would be, don't take it as a rejection of what you are asking but of him having other stuff on that needs his attention more urgently than your room.

If you learn this skill, life will be a lot less full of drama for you. When you have a problem with someone just find a way and time to talk about it in a mature and understanding way.

Another poster pointed this

Another poster pointed this out, but you are all assuming that this is a teenage girl. If the friend was a boy, and his dad put him with the little brother, then I am assuming it is a boy who wrote this letter.

Now, in that case it makes sense for the biodsd to put this boy with a brother instead of having a girl and boy room together. Although having. A teenage boy rooming with a much younger sibling is not ideal.

I am going to assume that the people that are living with the biodad and the stepmother are paying rent. If not they are reaping some sort of benefit, because no one would let grown people live with them for a long period of time for free.

Now if the teenage boys father doesn't see that this would bother his son to be rooming with his younger sibling, then he is either dense or needs the money from the other parents.

I think OP is a boy.

I don't see where the OP says

I don't see where the OP says whether she/he is male or female. Am I missing something, here? If everyone's up in arms about opposite sex kids sharing a room, where is the outrage for the younger, opposite sex kids who would have to share a room if OP gets his/her own room?

I don't for one second believe this is a 13 year old kid. Whoever this is is an entitled brat who feels the need to make decisions in a house that other people pay for.

"My mom told me I needed to tell him, or else she'd take him to court (and believe me, she always wins)."

^^^^^^this sounds like it could have been written by any one of our BMs. Why on EARTH is this "kid's" mother even mentioning the word "court" in a conversation with a child?

I am out...

I made that assumption by the

I made that assumption by the deceased friend being male, and by them puting the kid with the younger brother instead of sister.

I do agree that this was def written by an angry BM.

The fact of the matter is that if mom takes the dad back to court then this will only put a strain on the relationship with the bioson. That seems like a huge loss for the kid.

I am a boy, not a girl. I

I am a boy, not a girl. I also truly am 13. I was born on March 8, 2002. I'm in the 8th grade. My proper English shouldn't justify my gender, nor should it justify my age. Why do you all assume because someone comes to here that it's never a real teenager who needs help? Also, what in the hell is a BM?

I'm a legitimate 13 year old boy who is being forced to share a room for the first time, and I need help. You all are refusing to help me, because you all think I'm a brat? If your son/daughter was a brat, but they were about to drown in a pool, you wouldn't jump in and save them? Sounds like you're a bad parent.

I also NEVER ONCE SAID that I wanted to stay at my mom's house. I want to go both places, because I equally love both of my parents. I was saying that with the accommodations in effect right now, it makes me want to be at my mom's house all the time, which I obviously don't want.

There's a big difference

There's a big difference inbetween saving a life and you having to share a room with a 5 year old. That's not a life or death situation in the least and quite honestly shows how immature and spoiled you are comparing the two to each other.

but you aren't drowning in a

but you aren't drowning in a pool, are you? You simply don't want to share a room. I didn't have my own room until I was divorced, at age 32!!

We are not refusing to help you - several are giving you suggestions as to how to approach your father.

Sometimes life's not fair, kiddo, and you have to roll with the punches.

How long are you to share the

How long are you to share the room?

Improper use of the word

Improper use of the word 'justify'.

Also, I hope you recognize that it's hard to take someone seriously when they talk about drowning in a pool as exactly the same as being somewhat inconvenienced a couple of days a week as part of a family decision to help a loved and longtime friend in need.

Since you're a boy, I've

Since you're a boy, I've changed my vote. There's nothing wrong with you and your brother sharing a room.

If it were 2 boys sharing a

If it were 2 boys sharing a room, I'd say to suck it up. My brothers shared a bedroom until the oldest left for college. I'm sorry, but it's not a "necessity". My two sons share a room now. Think of it as practice to dorm life in college.

If it's a 13 year old girl sharing with a little boy, then it's not right.

OP is a boy.....who

OP is a boy.....who apparently has no problem with his little brother and little sister sharing a room.

Then OP is just being 13 and

Then OP is just being 13 and a bit of a brat, which is typical for the age. Sharing a room at night half the time is NOT the end of the world. He has the rest of his adult life to have his own room. He should tell his parents how he feels, and it's up to them whether or not they indulge him.

Yup - pretty much what I said

Yup - pretty much what I said to him

OP says he/she/it has a

OP says he/she/it has a little brother AND a little sister - and assumed THEY would be sharing a room. Guessing that if OP is a female, she would be sharing with the little sister.

I'd really like to say that I

I'd really like to say that I am a 13 year old MALE. I'm not a 13 year old FEMALE. Why do you all assume that I am a female? (Yes, I am the OP of this thread).

I also am actually 13. I spend a lot of time in Internet communities (like Minecraft), and I have adapted to using correct grammar and proper mechanics. My way of writing posts shouldn't justify my age, nor should it justify my gender... It's just who I am.

I also didn't mean to sound "bratty". I was pointing to the fact about my mom and step-dad being wealthy, because it was the reason why I have my own things there and not at my dad's. Also, saying my mom always wins in court was somewhat of a joke, because everyone says that women are always right about everything.

To answer some questions...

- They are there at my dad's about every other day.
- My little brother pees the bed, and he leaves his PullIUps on the floor, which is another issue.
- My little brother is always told to pick up the floor, but he seldomly does. Like last night, he left Legos on the floor. He goes to bed at 7:30 PM. I go to bed at 10:00 PM. I stepped on so many Legos when trying to get to my bed, and I actually tripped and hit my head, waking him up. He then proceeded to yell at me for not being asleep.
- My parents have been divorced since I was 2 years old.
- I AM A MALE. I AM NOT A FEMALE.
- I have had my own room for the past 5 years, and now I have to share one.
- My deceased friend's parents live 2 hours away, and their son died in their house. I assume they wouldn't want to move because of his room being in that house, and his belongings.

Thanks you all for your responses.

Can you help your Dad

Can you help your Dad "problem-solve" this? Is there another room in the house that could be converted to a bedroom? Would there be a way to divide the room you share? (a curtain, a bookcase, etc.)

You did not give a time line for the current situation. First you said the mom was staying on the days she worked - then you said she and her husband could move out. Find out how long she/they will be staying there - you can probably tough it out if you have to.

As others have said - don't confront your Dad. Talk to him, see if you guys can solve this together.

This is my schedule with my

This is my schedule with my parents:

With mom: Friday (after school), Saturday, Sunday, Monday (leave Tuesday morning)
With dad: Tuesday (after school), Wednesday, Thursday (leave Friday morning)

There is no estimated date on when they'll move out. My guess is until she quits her job/gets fired, which isn't going to happen. They moved in in late July of this year. My dad told me that if I told him I couldn't take it, he'd ask them to move out. I haven't asked him yet. I don't want to, because I'd feel bad for them. But, my grades are dropping (I went from a 89B to a 75C in Algebra this trimester).

>>>On a side note to those who pointed this out, yes I am in class. I attend a private school, so we have enough money to allow all middle school students to have iPads. StepTalk is not blocked on our internet, so I am on here during class.

Your grades are dropping and

Your grades are dropping and you're surfing the net in class? Step Talk can wait until you are OUT of class. SMH

how did you find STalk? Just

how did you find STalk? Just curious, since most of us google things like "stepkids making me crazy" or "husband's kids are jerks" or something like that.....

It is time to tell your dad

It is time to tell your dad the truth. You can live with your mom full time, but have the courtesy to tell him you still want a relationship with him. My SD did this at 14 and I can tell you it destroyed who she could have been. Tread lightly, my husband has never forgiven my SD for starting this battle and living with BM full time. You can do this, you just have to be a good daughter and work on a relationship with your father and live with your mom full time. It takes work, but it can be done.

Now, I would try it for awhile at your BM's if he is open to it. Leave the door open to stay on the weekends once in awhile.

The fun house is not always the better house, but in this case, you do deserve a bedroom. Tell your dad that and see where it goes. If it is handled right, you have a chance. My SD handled it so poorly, there is no turning back. My husband sees her about three times a year and our BM lived in the subdivision across the street from ours. Good luck.

10pm at age 13? Do you go to

10pm at age 13? Do you go to school?

Look, you want your own room and you don't like it. Suck it up buttercup (not to be mean, just to tell you that this is something you don't have any say in).

But the other issues you mentioned are all solveable.

Genuine issues (IMHO):
1. Messy room
- can't have friends over
- can't get into bed at night without sustaining head damage
- unhygienic due to peed-on pull-ups on the floor
- not good for studying

2. Lack of privacy
- have to interact with five year old brother who thinks you're a super-hero and wants all your attention all the time
- not good for studying
- not good for having friends over
- not getting enough sleep

Go talk to your dad and SM and explain the problems and ask for ideas to solve. Such as - a 1-2 hour window daily for you to study or have friends over
- ask them to work with little brother so that the room is not so messy at night
- ask them what you CAN do to deal with this. Can YOU be the one to tidy up? If so, then tell little brother to tidy up and that anything not tidied up you will take away until you come back for your next custody period. Then tidy up by putting all the toys left out into a bin and putting the bin on a high shelf. Then put the bin back down when you come back next time, and tell little brother the same thing.

But seriously? You're 13 and are complaining about a messy room? I'm hoping you are either some kind of Stepford child or your brother is seriously out-of-control...

My question to the OP is why

My question to the OP is why can't you just simply talk to your dad. Why would you want to start a war between you parents that can be prevented. Why upset your Mom with all this when you can simply talk to your dad, as he has asked you to. The friends mom is a grown woman, I am positive that she would no want to put a strain on yours and your fathers relationship.

This is a good opportunity to handle this like the man you will become. If the friends parents are working then thee can find another place that won't cause a strain on you and your family.

^^THIS^^ Why go to a forum if

^^THIS^^

Why go to a forum if you haven't even talked to your dad? Communicate with him and see if he is willing to do something. But honestly, it's Dad's decision, and it's a luxury to have your own room.

If Dad and Stepmother had more children, there'd be no question about sharing a room.

^^^Yup. A wealthy BM who

^^^Yup. A wealthy BM who always wins in court, presumably by doing research while the kiddos are at school.

Brennan, solve your own

Brennan, solve your own problem. You can do it.

At lil bro's appointed bed time, HELP him clean up. Make a game of it. You are his glamorous big brother, he will LOVE getting that extra attention from you.

Make another game of reminding him to pick up his other "mess," too. Become a team of explorers who are each in charge of certain parts of your expedition. But you can't let the enemy agents know what you are up to. So you have a secret signal that you use to tell him to pack his survival gear (overnight diaper goes into diaper pail). The signal can be a certain whistle or hand sign. Give him a "chore" he can signal for YOU to do as well such as tickle him, help him make his bed, whatever you boys dream up.

Stop your dad in the hallway and tell him how much you admire him for being so generous with his friends. Tell him you are learning a lot from him.

Tell the nurse you remember her little boy fondly and are glad you can help do something for his mom.

Write yourself an essay about how grateful you are to have a little brother, something money cannot buy. List all the ways this kid makes you laugh and the brotherly things only the two of you "get." Keep this essay under your pillow.

Tell your smom you would like to help out more. What can you do to pitch in?

Write this down somewhere and read it every day: "Some people are so poor all they have is money."

I love this post. Seriously,

I love this post. Seriously, a little bit verklempt over here. Sniff.

Mona Lisa smile Very

**Mona Lisa smile** Very kind of you, Moe.

imaSmom, check again - the OP

imaSmom, check again - the OP is not really all that articulate. Longer, close synonyms are used instead of casual speech, many words are used incorrectly. There is clear difficulty in expressing thoughts fluidly. At first I thought ESL, then I thought excessive use of thesaurus.

It apparently refers to an

It apparently refers to an incident that occurred long ago on ST where someone came on and got a bunch of sympathy or something then was revealed to be just an attention seeking hoax. The whole thing made up, the person not who she claimed to be at all.

Now, though, if I recall correctly, it is against the site's rules to call somebody that.

Lol. Dump toys on Dad's bed.

Lol. Dump toys on Dad's bed. Not female, male (yes, OP turned out to be a he not a she, I assumed he was a she too... it's not like we get many young teenage boys popping in here).

Maybe you should advise him to just tell Dad that if Dad wants to handout rooms and beds to grown ass adults, Dad can start with giving away Dad's bedroom.

I saw that immediately

I saw that immediately yesterday, but didn't comment on it because I had already said I was out.

but, yeah, totally gives it away.

OK - whose BM is this?????

What the ever loving

What the ever loving heck.

Are all kids this coming generation this spoiled? I didn't have my own room until I was 15. College kids dorm together. People who have multiple children put their kids together. I can't believe some of the responses I'm reading either, and doesn't make it any less alarming because we're the ones creating these entitled children.

Like the first responder, work in a homeless shelter, walk into the slum areas of your neighborhood and be grateful for what you have. I had a friend stay over after going through a separation for two weeks, my daughter roomed with me and my husband. I would cry if my child thought his comfort was more important than helping a friend in need. My old bedroom at my parents was regularly used as the guest, and I would room with my mom or sister when it was. This honestly blows my mind.

Oh Sally, silly me. I totally

Oh Sally, silly me. I totally forgot that COD's are above the rest of us plebes. Bad not2sure. How could you be so unsympathetic?

He might be pissed he doesn't have a place to privately watch adult material. A 5 year old brother could definitely put a damper on that. Just take a longer shower.

I shared a room with my

I shared a room with my sister until I went to college. Where I shared a dorm room with two other girls. Then I moved into an apartment - where I shared a room. After graduation, I moved in with Asshat (XH) - shared a room. Then Asshat and I got married. Shared a room.

I FINALLY got my own room - but not my own bathroom - when Asshat moved out. I was 33 years old. LOL...Still didn't have my own bathroom, as I shared the upstairs hall bath with my twin boys.

I have no idea how I survived all those years sharing a room - *insert HUGE eyeroll here*

Definite Troll. "I need my

Definite Troll.

"I need my own privacy, where I can study peacefully, and invite people over."

No 13 year old says they want to study peacefully LOL!! This is a BM on her high horse trying to justify and protect the ungrateful princess from her "poor" dad. I'm willing to bet the dad is a kind person who just happens to not be as wealthy as BM.

All these comments relevant

All these comments relevant to, "this isn't a 13 year old boy, it's a BM" or "just a troll, don't help", really, REALLY hurts me. I found this place a few months ago, when I googled something whilst in another situation (whole other story), and this site came up. The story was a 15 year old boy talking about his 14 year old step sister, and he was asking if he should have sex with her or not. ALL the comments were, "this is not a 15 year old". That's how I said you all never believe teenagers come here.

I appreciate those comments who truly helped, and did understand my dilemma. Yes, I am actually a 13 year old male, and I do speak this way on a daily basis. Because I AM actually a 13 year old, I can speak for every teenager, in saying that you all as adults, are so used to teens using slang texting, saying "omg" or "lol wtf", etc. I think people who text, write & speak that way are uneducated delinquents, and that's why I don't do that. My mother pays for me to attend a Catholic private school, and I want to learn the most I can. That also brings up another statement: I never said that I wanted to stay at my mother's. I love my mom, and my dad, and I enjoy being both places. Through all my years (11, they divorced when I was 2), I have NEVER had to share a room, at my mom's and at my dad's. But, this is the first time I've had to, and the only reason is because they moved in.

I also NEVER said I wanted to start a 'war' with my dad. I just wanted advice on how to approach and how to talk to him, because I honestly hate talking to him about things. I'm not the greatest when it comes to discussing things face-to-face, especially with adults. Typically, after I have a long talk with my dad, he always relates something to the bible, and gives me a huge speech to listen to (I normally daydream and don't pay attention, because it's the same damn thing every time). Also, don't be shocked that I can say "damn" and not expect repercussions. My dad is 'religious' about everything, and won't even let me say "crap", although mom doesn't care what I say, typically because I don't swear unless I am pissed; which I am now.

Also, relating to me knowing what "OP" means but not "BM", it's because, as stated above, "OP" is universal to forums. I spend time as an Admin & Manager for Minecraft communities, and I've set up forums there, so I know what an OP is.

Thank you to all those who've helped me, and I'll definitely take your advice into consideration. As for those who are too vacuous to see that I am an actual 13 year old, good luck in life. I'm sure with the way you treat other teenagers, even online, will foreshadow how you'll act to other people in distress. It doesn't matter to me that you all doubt I am a teenager, because you think I have to be a child prodigy in order to speak the way I do? That's plain humorous, and sad at the same time. You all are oblivious to the truth, and for whatever reason, think it's okay to down-talk kids online. You all a great parents...

If you think I'm a brat, leave. I don't need you constantly anatagonizing me for poorly handling a situation I've never been forced to face before. I'm not spoiled, I'm actually far from it. I've just never had this type of issue until now because of them, and I honestly think my dad cares more about them than me. I shouldn't have to suffer and be punished for a decision in the workforce of another human being, that I had no doing of participating in. Can't understand what I'm trying to say? I don't expect you to. You all that are doubting me are of no use, nor are you of any importance to me.

I enjoy reading helpful comments, and I enjoy laughing at the comments that doubt my identity.

Did I ever say I was in

Did I ever say I was in class? No, I'm doing this during flex periods. And yes, I can rightfully blame them on my brother. I cannot study, because he sits on his bed on his iPhone (my dad's old iPhone 4; no data/text/calling, he just uses WiFi) at full volume, when I asked him politely to turn it down, he simply looks up at me, and like a kid, sticks his tongue out at me and goes back to watching it. He also goes to be at 7:00 PM, so my parents kick me out and make me study in the living room, which is right next to the kitchen, and my step-mom and dad watch Real Housewives, and laugh constantly, which is a distraction for me.

Also, I'm at the point where I'm asking you to get the fuck out. I'm not trolling the Internet. I am a real teenager, and if you don't want to offer ACTUAL advice, you can stop replying to this forum and tend to your children, like a real parent should.

I get my homework done during

I get my homework done during lunch. I also am not allowed to play video games or watch TV of any sort after school. My dad makes me study until I go to bed, so I still have to study/do work at home, even if it's all done. My dad once made me study for a test that was a week and a half away!

Kids, step-kids, whatever they are, doesn't matter. If there are so many sites for teens to vent, link me to one.

I talked to my dad and

I talked to my dad and step-mom. They understood what I was saying, and they felt bad. They said they'll talk it over, and possibly ask her to leave the house because she's a grown woman (she's in her late 30s), and can move closer.

Thank you to all those who gave actual advice. For those who doubted my age because of my ways of writing, you're all funny.

Have a great Thanksgiving everyone.

Good for you for bringing

Good for you for bringing your concerns up to Dad. Your family did a very kind and generous action for friends. The time had come, however, that the other family break out and start their new lives in their new area.

I wish you all the best.

@twoviewpoints I wanted to

@twoviewpoints I wanted to mention that they never asked to stay here. My dad and step-mom had made the decision on their own because they felt bad for me sleeping on the couch when she was here.

Now, they don't need to talk to them. She and her husband told my dad and step-mom that they are getting their own apartment here in Lexington, because they see each other maybe once every 2 weeks, and they don't like it. I'll have my own room back in January, because they move out at the end of this month, but my step-mom has surgery in early December so my dad needs to give her his full attention.

You are here

I am a teen with divorced parents, and I need to tell my dad I've had enough