My boyfriend's ex wife wants to file a restraining order against me.
So here's the deal. I've been seeing my boyfriend for over a year now. At first, I steered very clear of the ex wife because I was warned she was a psycho bitch. But when I didn't go with him to visit his daughter, she sent me a long message, lying about my boyfriend to break us up. I decided to let her think it worked and she sent my man her "heartfelt apology". We'll when he began getting regular visitation, I started going to the pick up and drop offs so that she couldn't verbally assault him, or drag me into the mess by harassing me even more. We'll now l, after a year, she wants to get a restraining order against me because she's mad she got served contempt of court papers. Can she do this? Will the Peace Order actually stick? I have never been rude or aggressive towards her or her daughter and the daughter and I have a very strong relationship. Please help. What should I do. I know she wants to break us up by doing this, but I'm not going anywhere.
She has to prove you have a
She has to prove you have a history of physically and/or verbally assaulting her and/or harassing her.
If you don't speak to her directly, have never had a physical or verbal altercation, call her, FB with her, text her or email her, she has no case.
She sounds like a nut, and it
She sounds like a nut, and it is your bf that needs to put a stop to it immediately. He is the one that is going to have to put up the boundaries. This bitterness and anger has to be causing stress to the kid, and he needs to stop appeasing the nut, because there will never be any appearing her.
I wouldn't worry about the restraining order. She has no evidence that you tried to harass her in any way, there are no police or cps reports. If anything it will make her look like the jealous nut that she is. I would change the court order to have the pick up drop off at a neutral very public place or even before and after school so they don't physically have to see each other.
i know how you feel. My dhs ex was always trying to make it out that I was the issue. I could have cared less about her or her fee fees. I wasn't trying to make things difficult for her because I didn't care, she is nothing to me. I did care that the woman was making it difficult for my husband with her crap, because it was affecting my life and was starting to affect our kids lives. That is when I told dh that he needed to not engage thereby enabling her behavior. She couldn't fight with him if he wasn't available in any way to her.
Your bt's ex obviously cannot control her anger. There is nothing your bf can do to control her. What he can do is limit all access to himself, put up boundaries, and parallel parent with a strong court order, check into our family wizard and look into having the court order changed so that they never have to physically see each other.
To all the people who gave me
To all the people who gave me advice, thank you so much but leaving my partner is NOT an option. I was raised to not give up on what I love, and I love the child and my partner very much. They're my whole world.
Go on the offensive. Confront
Go on the offensive. Confront her publically each and every time she gets toxic. File harrassment charges against her, document everyting. Put her entire toxic and manipulative life on display in the courts, the community, her Church, the kid's school, etc... Facts are not good or bad, they are just facts. Bare her ass with the facts of her behaviors.
Tolerate no bullshit. Always be classy and adult while she is wallowing in the effluent of her shallow and polluted gene pool.
Own her idiot ass.
And have fun doing it. }:)
This is what worked for us during the 16+ years we lived under a Custody/Visitation/Support order for my SS. We owned the idiot SpermClan and they knew it. When they even thought about sticking their noses out from under the slime covered rock in the bottom of their family cesspool we smacked them back into line with a rolled up copy of the CO. (unfortunately only figuratively)
Zero tolerance. Own her idiot ass, live well, be happy, be radiant, and let her scurry for a dark corner like a cockroach does when a light is turned on in a dark room. Be the light. She will scurry. Cockroach diots always do.
This woman does have
This woman does have boundaries, set by the courts . She refuses to obey which is why we filed contempt of court charges. I do record everything, but some gotta understand, this woman is very volatile and even if I weren't going, she would STILL harass me and try to break us up. I'm mainly looking for people with similar experiences and what they did (besides leave). He has told her to quit harassing me and if I file a complaint, I'm afraid it will make me look vindictive and like I'm just out to get my man's ex
Not to mention when my
Not to mention when my boyfriend DOES stand up to her and tell her to quit harassing us, she still doesn't listen. I don't talk to her when I get put of the car and seeing as how is a 2 door, I kinda have to get out to let the child in. I also stay out to record because it's a 3 party consent state. That means as long as my bf knows I'm recording the convo, I don't have to tell her. But if he recorded it, he would have to tell her and we wouldn't catch her in her lies.