This is my first post here and need to vent.

My husband and I have been married for two years now. I have two grown children and he has one grown daughter and a 12 year old son.

A little history on the kids: My son is the oldest. He graduated high school and joined the Army, deployed to Afghanistan and got out of the Army and lives with his father while building his log home. He hasn't asked for a dime since high school.

My daughter is 23 and after high school she moved to a college town with two friends as roommates and has been on her own. I pay her cell phone bill every month but she pays everything else. Once in a while she will ask for help to pay a light bill but otherwise is mainly self sufficient.

Next is my step daughter. She is almost 23. She is spoiled. There is no other way to put it.

My step son is almost 12. He lives full time with his mom but visits. He's a good kid, really sweet.

My step daughter moved in with us about 10 months ago but only stayed a week saying she missed home but turned out she missed a 17 year old boy. As of two weeks ago she moved back. She lived in another state so this is a big move. She came with a car load of clothes and shoes, not much else.
She had never really had to do much and was spoiled. After high school she began waiting tables. Nothing wrong with that but she wasn't really asked to contribute financially at her moms. She moved in with a crappy man for a short period of time then moved back home to moms, then back with the crappy guy then back with mom, etc. Finally her mom put her foot down and She can't live there any longer. She moved in with her sister and it worked for a while and then she ended up here. Her grandparents paid her car payment and insurance up for several months and gave her $200 to move here with. So far she blew her spending money but she did find a job and started yesterday. She has been absolutely no help with chores. She was here two days and already was hanging out with some guy. She inconsiderate. She tried to move here on a Sunday night in the middle of the night knowing her dad has to work but she messed around all day and just didn't care that he would have to get out of bed. He told her to stay there another night and come during the day. She did. Another example, I made breakfast and she ate when she woke up and didn't thank me. Her dad had her out the him the other day and ran into a guy he knows. This guy had a couple of friends with him and she was all excited that there were possible single men for her to talk to. So far she hasn't offered a dime toward any bills and that's something her dad is going to have to talk to her about. Is $50 a week fair?

I know this is a lot of rambling but I don't know how to handle any of this. I taught my kids to be independent but there's no shame in asking for help. If they acted this way I would be appalled.

I have Netflix set up in four names: mine, my husbands, my SS and my daughter. She changed my daughters name to hers and I was livid. Not because of the name change but because she never considered asking if it was ok. I got so mad I deleted the name. I felt bad afterward and added it back and thought how difficult moving to a strange place must be and decided to be more thoughtful and made her breakfast. She got up I said "good morning" and she stared at me like I had three heads them finally mumbled something, ate and left.

Grrrr. I don't know what to do. It doesn't look like she's moving back and will be here a while.

I don't mean to sound be petty either. It's an adjustment for us all but I think she thinks she can live here for free and no help with anything. It's only been two weeks!