Let's start this incredibly depressing entry on a lighter note, because by the end of this I will be ready to pull my own hair out. We received word yesterday that the modified parenting plan had been signed by a judge and is now in effect. Woohoo! Now, instead of two 8-hour visits per month, BF gets the standard EOW visitation plan. Hooray! We were so excited and happy about this news. In the old parenting plan, BF was to get SS over the weekend for Easter. Now that the new plan is in place, it was switched to Thursday and Friday.

Looking back about a week, BM has been calling and emailing trying to convince us that we had "switched" visitation so as to not have SS on Easter. BF agreed to no such thing. Well then she tries to claim that BF doesn't "get" SS on Easter because that's her day. Noo, Every odd Easter is BF's time. When she realizes that she won't be able to trick or bribe BF into giving up his Easter visitation, she tells him that she would "die before she let him get SS on Easter".

Now, back to yesterday and learning about the new parenting plan. So now that BF is aware that he is supposed to have SS that very night, he called BM to arrange picking him up. She informed him that that wasn't going to happen. "What have you done now?" he asked her. She informed him that she shouldn't even be talking to him at all, and that had taken out an order of protection on him so that he couldn't see SS. BF told her, "This is about to get messy..." and hung up.

So yesterday afternoon when I got off work, we went straight to our lawyer with all of our evidence. BF's divorce attorney has already drawn up paperwork to file on Friday to sue her for contempt of court. We have been advised by all 3 attorneys that we can have the state sue BM for pressing false charges, and we will be doing that as soon as we can. After an hour or two of discussion, our criminal attorney advised us that we should present our evidence to the Magistrate and ask for a summons for phone harrassment, which is a criminal charge. They also advised us to let BF's mother call DCS (she's been waiting for us to give her the go-ahead for months) and report BM's house as a potential health hazard so that they would investigate it. My attorney called the sheriff's department in BM's county and the sheriff served the order of protection to BF over the phone, then requested that BF come pick it up in person himself.

In the meantime, BF's mother called BM's mother and warned her of what BM was doing and that she better talk some sense into her daughter before things got ugly and we started using the evidence we had. She said that BM has to make up lies to keep BF away from SS but we've been holding back the truth for so long while trying to be nice, but we weren't going to be nice anymore and things were going to get really bad if BM didn't quit. BM's mother called BM and told her what she was told, so of course BM called BF's mother and left a nasty message on her answering machine.

We went to the Magistrate's office and presented our evidence to her. She was seriously in shock. I guess I never realize the scope of just how bad this situation is until I see someone else's reaction to what we're dealing with. She said that BM is a liar, she's a cheat, and she needs to be taught some lessons on being a mother. She very gladly gave us the summons for phone harrassment and told us to keep logging everything.

BF's mother lives in the same county as BM, so we went to the sheriff's department there to pick up the order, then went to BF's mothers to record the message off of the machine. The order said that when BM tried to call BF to tell him about SS being ill, BF told her that he wished she were dead and would do it himself if he had to. She stated that she felt threatened and was scared for her life.

We spent a couple of hours at BF's mother's house talking about everything, then went home. I can't believe we ran around from 4:30 PM to midnight just dealing with this stuff. I can't believe BM got ANOTHER order of protection on BF. She does this every time the court rules something that she doesn't agree with. She's using SS as a weapon and she's ruining him in the process.

I'm excited and nervous and anxious and worried. I just wish things would move faster!