We had my SS over the weekend for Father's Day. Friday when we picked him up, the ex gave my DH his father's day present from their son and added that she gave him something as well and that he would be able to tell which was from her. When I saw the gift later, I saw she got him these Nixon recordings on CD, a gift that he, as a Nixon fan, is sure to love. I asked him, "Does she always get you a gift on Father's Day?" He responds, "I was going to talk to you about that... this is the first year she has done it." (They have been separated for 3 years now.) She also included a card that wasn't too personal, but a little too familiar. This also was a new thing for her. My DH figured it was a little jab at me in response to the recent conflict we had about "my role". My DH thought about letting her know it was inappropriate. Every year, he has his son get her a gift on Mother's Day and she does the same on Father's Day. They never get gifts for each other. He decided not to bring it up to her because she thanked him in the card for being so flexible with the schedule... he thinks the gift may have just been a sincere gesture. I will let this one go as I so often have to do. While she is a good mother, she is subtly (and sometimes not so subtly), a total bitch.