It's been a few days since my last post.

I have avoided making a new post, actually, because I've felt a few of you needed to vent a bit more than I. My friend "goingcrazy" in particular. If you've not yet read her posts, please take a moment to do that. Afterwards, I'd like you to take another moment...and pray for both her family and for her. I am humbled by her strength, and her reaction to certain recent events. This is a tried and true woman, mother, and friend.

With that said, here goes.

If you have followed the posts about my SD, you know what is up. Pretty much, anyway.

What I've not mentioned is that her dad, a man I truly love, and her bio mom, I woman I truly can't stand, are in on this shit.

Her bio mom has come in three times. Once when the girl first started calling me mom. After ONE CALL the girl stopped calling me mom. That's all good, tho. I understand. The second time she called and made contact, we instructed her to call our girl's therapist. We figured that if the BM had anything genuine in her heart, the therapist could help her dad and I resolve our anger at her disappearance.

We made that appointment and the bio mom never showed, or call with a reason why. At least we got to pay for that visit.

The third, and last time, was about 2 years ago. She called and begged me to be in the girl's life. I said she should go to a therapist, and when she was deemed mentally healthy, she could see her.

My thing is this: I don't want to keep a kid from their parent if they are OK and have good intentions.

The woman, Miss Bio Mom USA, never showed up. That has been her contribution in this.

Now, her dad. The man I love. The man SHE loves.

More so than confirming what we both see, he has been in denial. More than back me up, he has told me that I "see things" and "make too much of things".

He says he defends me when I am not around. ???? What does it tell her, though? If she shits on me and I am there, he is mostly silent. But if I am not around and she talks shit, then he is at my side? I dunno.

Then, there is the fact that he lets her see her bio mom's blood family. Those assholes hate me. I don't even know why. HONEST! I don't know!

I barely know them, yet they have been less than welcoming. Why should they welcome me? I replaced their blood family. It's all right that they don't like me; no biggie. BUT WHEN THEY ARE OPEN WITH THE GIRL ABOUT HOW THEY DISLIKE ME, she gets confused and deluded and messed up. She gets an idea, on top of her already wrong ideas, that she doesn't have to pay me any mind. Ya dig?

So I told her dad not to allow them so many visits, because it is confusing her. He ignored me.

Why?

They buy him cars. Like, brand new cars. They pay for his cell phone. They bought him a new water heater for the house when the old one died. They send her to expensive camps when we can't. They take her out to dinner at nice places. They buy her CLOTHES FROM NORDSTROM THAT SHE HAS DESTROYED IN LESS THAN EIGHT MINUTES. I swear, you guys. In 8 minutes, she destroyed a suit from Nordstrom with grease from a BBQ.

We still don't know why she was playing with a BBQ.

They have paid for his school.

I have never said this to his face, but man, is he not the most over-priced whore ever?

I mean, if they pay...they play. Right? What? Is he going to tell them to stop talking shit when they have more money and power than me? I don't think so. I mean what am I? JUST THE WIFE.

So there's that. Her family has been down on my religion, my own kids, my way of living, my hair, my clothes, my EVERYTHING....but he can't tell them no. That's just crazy.

They reinforce what she is doing, and he won't say no to them.

Basically, I might as well have the bio mom around all the damned time. I get just as much crap either way.

Yes, they hate what the kid does, or what they have SEEN of her behavior....and they know it's about the BM....yet I am some piece of trash to be dealt with. Uh-huh.

OH AND HEY!!!! Just a side note: my family treats her like she is theirs. Even my ex husband.

I'll go into THAT in a minute. NEXT POST.