I'm new at the blog thing so bear with me! A little background- I've been dating my fiance for a lil over year and half. He has a beautiful 9 yr old SD who has been completely turned by someone. We only have her every other weekend so dont really have much of an influence. Really dont think the BM is intentionally doing anything just doesn't realize her actions and words matter so much. So SD has been giving fits for about a year. She used to be a daddy's girl but something has changed. I stayed away voluntarily to allow her time to deal with it. SD feels I am taking her place. Even though we slowly introduced me to her, BM says DH should get rid of me. BM is really trying but she wants him back. BM constantly pursues DH and will not give up even though they have been divorced for over 2 years.

We are getting married in 6 1/2 weeks! And SD refuses to be a part of the wedding or to come. We dont have her on that weekend so we cant just make her go. I'm really upset about it and I know she'll regret it when she's older. We both love her and want the best for her. He has never done anything bad to her or the mom. Wasn't even the reason for the divorce. But she is really attached to BM and vice versa. She texts SD all weekend long. Like every 30 minutes. SD completely changes attitude when she talks to BM. Prob because she feels like she is doing something wrong to BM by having fun with DH and me

So for the past month or two I have backed off a bit to show SD that I was not taking her place. And to give them time to work on their relationship. I haven't completely put off seeing her. He brought her to church with my family and ate lunch a couple of times.

Well yesterday was my first bridal shower at our church. So we invited his mom and sister to church and lunch with us. He brought SD also. She woke up at 6 am to tell him she had strep throat! But he knew she was faking so he made her go. So they came and it went great. She sat beside me at church and lunch. Helped my mom in the kitchen and played with my nephew. I had bought her some gifts for her new bedroom and had them ready to give her at the shower. So she sat beside me during the whole shower and helped me open gifts. When I told her we couldnt break any bows because that was how many kids I would have, she said she didnt want to be an only child! She said she wants a brother and a sister from us! This is a major breakthrough because she normally wont even recognize our relationship! I was so excited and thrilled she was so good. I am hoping she will come around before the wedding. If anyone has any ideas on what I should do let me know! Yall have always been such a good help!