It seems like every other month or so we have either the police or child protectiv at our door and we don't know what to do about it. Here are some of the things that have happened. When dh and I got together and bm found out she of course immediatly told dh that the children were not allowed to be anywhere near me. when we moved in together the kids started to come here for visitation and the first time that happened she called the police. of course she can't do anything about it, it's his time. but every time after that she called the police again. Then she called them and said that I was making prank calls to their 14 year old daughters phone. the police called me and said I was not to call the daughter. I told them that I hadn't and if they wanted to check couldn't they just look at her call record and show that none of them were my number. Then she attached my job. She called in anonimously to report that I and dh were in the parkinglot on a certain day having sex in the car. When I and my husband both, at seperate times, were called in to human resorces to investigate we both told them that neither one of us were even working that night, that we lived together and there was no reason for us to be doing such things at work when we live together and have a perfectly nice house to do such things in. After that she started up with child protective. This is the woman who allowed her pre teen daughters boyfreind stay the night in her room while my husband was at work. this was when they were still together and one of the reasons they are not anymore. when dh called and reported this to cps they told him that he was reponsible, it was his house, he the parent he shouldn't be allowing this to happen. nice huh? Now here she is calling them on us to say that we are drinking and carrying on in front of the kids. Neither I nor dh drink on a regular basis. DH is on meds that prevent him from drinking and I rarely do because it trigers my migrains. The next time came after this past 4th of july. we took the kids to the parade and they each got a little something, there was only 1 balloon and a few of the kids(we had 6 with us at the time,4 mine 2 his) so I wrote down a number and I let them all pick. the one closest got the balloon. SS was angry that he didn't get it so he sulked the rest of the parade. when we ignored him he began kicking the other children. On the way home in the van he continuted to act out. He started throwing thigs at bs9, hitting him in the face, he's the one that got the balloon. I and dh kept telling him to stop but he kept going. Getting fed up I had dh pull the car over, got out opened back door and told ss10 to get out he was going to walk. he started crying and saying he wouldn't do it anymore. I told him fine he better not then I got back in the car. a few minutes later he started doing it again but we waited to get home to do anything. at home we sent him to the bedroom where he proceeded to scream and break things, banging and kicking the walls and throwing thing, finally fed up dh brought him out to the living room sat on the couch and held him with his arm crossed so he couldn't break anything. A few weeks later cps showed up at the door. They had a report that we were spanking the kids and that we had made ss10 walk home alone in the dark. sd7 tells us later that they had been coached by mother what to say. another time on our weekend the kids came over raring to make things crazy, finding things to get into trouble for, things that you know they didn't think up themselves. bm called them 3 times. then around 10pm the police show up at the door and said bm called and said we wouldn't let her talk to the kids and she thought we were hitting the kids. ss10 comes running out of the bedroom screaming my dad is beating me. the officer says were you being naughty, ss says no. sd7 says yes you were and dad didn't hit you he put you in time out.
This is getting rediculouse now and we don't know how we can prevent it. it looks bad for him whenever they go to court over custody that he has been investigated so many times by cps. I get so stressed out because I have 4 children of my own that I have to protect, I can't have investigations out there at cps or whatever they do with those little investigations that mean nothing considering they are biased in bm's favor. her mother is a foster parent so they are in close contact with cps, they have them on speed dial. you would think after so many acusations they would be wondering why that family knows so many child molesters, thats right, everyone of her ex boyfreind and husbands have been investigated for child molestation. one even went to prison, her first husband whom she married when she was 16 and he was in his 30s. hmmm.