Opinions need SD left me some f u letters
What do you all think I should do. SD is at BMs this week (switch day Monday) I go into her room (in my house) to get laundry and she has left a full sheet note saying Razamond F You - in small letters to the side it says Go to Hell. I looked in a drawer, there is another full sheet that says Razamond F You and PS Still F You LOL. I look in the next drawer and there is yet another full sheet saying Razamond Go To Fing Hell with little F Yous around it. Mind you she is 13 and DH and I just got over a huge fight because I told him HE was allowing her to be hateful, disrespectful and nasty to me.
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Stop doing anything for her-or him
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
How can you live in a home this divided? Your DH knows about this and won't handle it?
I'd turn by back on both of them. What a miserable way to live.
Show him the note
It will be very hard for him to dispute what you're saying when he sees it in HER handwriting!
He needs to put his foot down. My stepkids have told me they hate me when they're in trouble, but I think that's something a lot of kids do to their parents.
I agree with Cruella, remember that writing is a way for them to vent like coming here is how we vent. However, I think she wrote those things and intended for you to see them. I also agree that she needs to suffer a stiff consequence and be told by H that while she doesn't have to love or like you, she does need to treat you with respect. Do you know if there is any PAS being practiced by BM?
I also think your H should buy SD a diary that can be locked with a key. That way, she can vent her feelings and then you do not have to look at what she wrote.
I had a diary that I wrote in all the time when I was a teen.
One day my mom found it and she says it fell on the floor and the page that opened had a bunch of I hate yous. They were directed at my mom. I did hate her. She told me no, I couldn't do exactaly what I wanted. So I hated her guts that day and wrote all about it!
Of course, I love my mom to peices! I was being a typical brat of a teen and the paper was how I expressed myself then and said the things I couldn't say outloud. The computer does that for me now! LOL!
Don't take it to much to heart, I know it had to hurt. I would show DH so he knows you aren't "picking on his angel". But don't let it get to you, like I said, I did it to my own mom.
Put the laundry right back
Put the laundry right back where you found it, first of all. Then take the notes & lay them on your DHs side of the bed. Inform him you will no longer be doing ANYTHING for her until she gives you a heartfelt apology and the attitude stops. Do not do her laundry! Don't do anything at all for her.
"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"
Show your DH
he needs to be aware that type of behavior is going on. Obviously the kid is upset with you for some reason so I would go straight to the source (SD) and both of you ask her what the heck is going on. SD may feel entitled to her privacy and may argue that you were snooping, but my feeling on that is that it is YOUR house. She is probaly just venting and trying to work through her feelings the best she can-although I do agree finding something like that would be unsettling. Good Luck Girl!
That is a great idea
Then whenever she asks you for something you can just point to the refrigerator-!! That is why I am not doing X for you!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
Exactly what I was going to say
But you beat me to it, Mustang!
Yep, I would hang it on the frig before she comes over and take great delight in watching the blood drain from her face when she gets a load of her "artwork" posted for all to see!
Have you shown DH the letters?
I like the refrigerator idea, LOL. I also, would cease doing anything for her.
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F/you love letters to stepmom
I have lovely notes and letters written to the universe about myself as well. I always make a copy, date the copy, and tuck the love letters back where I found them.
It's odd that I found this post today. I logged on to ask everyone's opinion on "spying" or looking through stuff or just finding notes and such. I will post an original post so I don't get the post off track.
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