There are two guys. One is divorced and has kids and the other one single. Both financially stable, good people and handsome. If I didn't know the guy with the kids already, I would have been sooo happy when the single guy asked me out. I feel extremely guilty letting the guy with the kids go because prince charming somehow knocked on my door from nowhere.

I was gonna settle down with the divorced guy because we really get along well now. I don't know about future as I will have to be like a mother to the kids and I thought it was not a big deal as I won't find a good guy like him otherwise and even though I am really confused about the meaning of love, I do think I have feelings for him. He is like my best friend. He understands me, he is just amazing, but of course he does love his kids and wants me to take care of the kids once we are married. The kids live with him. To be honest the kids are nice to me....actually they miss a mother figure in their lives so they keep asking me to move in with them. They do love their mom of course, but they know that she has remarried and won't come back in their lives so they are excited about having a new mommy. I have been really nice to them as well. I somtimes think that we will have a great life together. I will raise them just like my own kids. The father himself is hardworking, loving and caring person. He is a good person. Something just went wrong with the ex, which is unfortunate. He is not a bad guy. He is educated, hardworking, modest, fun loving, responsible guy. However, he hates BM and has no communications whatsoever with her. He said that is the best for everyone. I agree with him.

The thing is I didn't committ to engagment because I just wanted to make sure I really wanted to raise these kids. I have no issues otherwise. My family has been against this relationship. They think I won't be able to handle so much responsibility too soon. Basically, they put in this idea in my head that it might be too much or what if it changes to resentment or what if the kids started having problems with me. I am no superwoman. I talked to him about it so he knows, but he convinces me that it will be alright and that I am listening to negative people. He acknowledges that it will be hard, but he is willing to help me out. Even hire someone to do some of the house chores.

Then this other guy that i know started developing interest. He is single, no past history, financially stable (the other guy is too), good looking and a really good person as well. Since I know him through school, he says he likes my personality and that he always wanted to be with me, but all this time he was studying and working hard to get a house and car. He is same age as me, but the guy with kids is older. I kind of knew something all along, but since he never said anything until now, I didn't really give it that much importance. I know his family too. Great people. His mom had called my mom and said that his son is finally going to tell me about his feelings and she can't wait to see us together. so when he told me and gave me diamond earnings, I didn't take it. I said I need time to think, I tried to tell him about the other guy, but I turned into a coward and didn't. I came home and told my parents and they said they already knew and were extremely happy about it. I told them I didn't take the earrings. My mom was really dissappointed. She thinks I have no idea what it is like to be a stepmother. She thinks I am naive to let go off such a great suitor. I don't know what to do. Deep down in my heart, I feel I can't leave the guy with the kids. I am not selfish. I want to help him and i do care for him.

Any advice is appreciated and thanks in advance.