I don't even know where to start. I guess my biggest issue is that BM a year and a half later still involves herself actively with FH family. This then leads to them being closer with BM then they are with FH. We kind of got it at first because he worked an away job and his family kept in contact so they could see their grandkids when he was not around. Now a good 7k later to the lawyer we are still fighting for 50/50 CS from her, unpaid childcare, and her fairy tale impression that she has every right to quit her job move the kids and have FH pay for her to go to school because she doesn't want to work...

Let me clarify BM goes on and off with custody about 3 months ago, right about the time that she no longer had a bf to keep her busy, she refused to let FH see his kids more then 3 days at a time. While she got 5 this played perfectly into her weekly bar routine as well. Previously when she had no problem doing a 2 and 2 week schedule she would drop the kids at a friends house for the night so she could go out and get shit faced. Then pick them up in the morning. Meanwhile she is on FH's case about them coming home tired because they weren't sleeping at his house... yes they sleep so well at your random babysitters house aswell. FH gave her so much dough in the first 6 months he added it up and she made more then him in that time frame. After that he only paid her CS. 6 months ago BM got a job, very easily I might add. She put the kids in day care (paid by FH) and still collected full CS from DH non from her. As accounted by his lawyer he has had his kids enough (40/60) that she does owe CS and has yet to pay it for her employment time. She has also with held the kids from him and made his life a general hell...

So I guess it makes me soooo frustrated, sad, mad when I see HIS family support BM. I was very insistant with him to keep them in the loop then they could make their own judgements. Even after finding out this woman is a past alcoholic who couldn't take care of their daughter and she had been refusing access. She has been invited to numorous family events when he has not even heard a whisper of them. Our last conversation with his family consisted of us letting them know that she intended on getting full custody and moving them and was also refusing access for well over a week. We thought they got the point I even told them how hurt he was by their actions and how I and him would love to be able to be with the family. We could not do this if she was actively involved esp with a court battle on the go.... This weekend we found out that FH grandparents have offered up their camper in the family campground to BM for the long weekend. The kicker?? His brother and him have the same birthday and have always gone out to spend it with their family at the campground. Of course that event is this weekend. I feel hurt for him and I feel hurt. I feel like this family thinks I am just a phase that him and BM will get back together and nothing matters. I just want to scream ITS MY TURN. I sat aside all this time and just stayed silent hoping it would get better... now this? I don't have family here and his would rather give up their camper then be there for an annual bday celebration and include his BM to boot. So sick of being nice and saying nothing not telling people how miserable he is because we cant afford to do anything for his kids because BM wont be a reasonable human being. I just want to send a letter to each one of his family to let them know exactly what that bitch has done. I want to tell them if they ever expect to know any grandchildren from me they had better second think their actions... I know that wont help but I feel like I am going to break if I keep staying silent...