been awhile to be here.. update
hi everyone... I just had a another baby girl... and she is now 6 months old. and nearly thanksgiving and xmas.. and I do not want step kid at all... hubby mentioned.. he said. I will let you live here til Jan. If you dont changed the way you treat her and such.. you got to move on. I will find somebody treat them better than you do.
which i never care about his daughter the 8 year old goin 9. and wanted me to go to ohio.. to visit his mom. I do not want to go. he said why? I said i said so. i said i dont want to go .. *8 yr old this weekend* that is reason why i dont want to tag along.. too much trouble. so i rather not. so he got so mad. and every year.. on xmas day i dont bitch at him about comin to my family house. he doesnt want to come and i said ok fine he stay home i left with my oldest. he stayed w his 8 year back then.. every year.
whatever... i dont care what happens.. i will always have my girls. i love him and i dont love his oldest. i never talk to her i dont do stuff.. i wont do anything.. he is responsible. 1. feed her, 2. tell her to shower brush teeth etc. 3. anything. 4. ah clothes in washer.. and dryer and fold clothers herself. i dont do shit for her.. i do for myself and hubby and my 2 girls.
i think im better to be single mom.. rest of my life. i dont need a man to tell me what to do.
Is there any way you might
Is there any way you might try marriage counseling? That might help the two of you to get on the same page regarding discipline and rules for his oldest. Maybe he'd consider getting her individual counseling as well. How often does he have her?
However, you know your situation and your husband a lot better than I do, and if you don't think counseling will help you, or he doesn't want it, the best option for everyone involved might be for the two of you to separate like you said. Your daughters will grow up much happier and well-adjusted with a mom who is happy.
My thoughts, prayers and best wishes go out to you.
im on medicaid... and they
im on medicaid... and they denied me twice.. and im tryin for last time. and struggling with my own. and just irraties me. we dont have marriage counselin and we did go to counseling.. for general. and i just hated everything what 8 year old. i rather to be me, hubby and my 2 girls.. we are fine. but when she around i friggin want to leave.. sick of that brat. i do love my husband and i don tlove his daughter. at all.. i did not buy her anything.. not even 1 little thing. nope. she not my daughter and she will never will be. i dont have no bond with her at all.. and im not interested im interested her dad the only man i marry to.
for now on.. i leave the house and when she comes i dont give a damn to her. today she comin.. im takin my youngest to go to window shopping... and do some xmas gift for my oldest daughter 3 year old. i dont buy anything for hubby or his daughter.. hubby doesnt get any xmas gifts.. he doesnt want any. so. im doing for my 2 girls only. families friends just cards.
i have no clue what i am doing. 1. where i will go no place to go but women shelter... 2. my family will not help me.. even tho i have a 6 months old.
i just sometimes to shoot in my head and get over with or something.. i dont want to live like this shit. irratied.. sorry.
guess 1 step at a time.