BM trying to ruin our vacation
FDH, my kids, and SD are going on vacation to visit some of his family. She has been to this place before and knows these family members. She is a lunatic so she's doing everything she can to try to ruin our vacation. She told him that the county she lives in requires a 30 days written notice and since we have not provided that we can't take SD. There is nothing in the CO about 30 days written notice and there is nothing in the county custody laws as she claims but she has him scared she won't give her to us. Personally I couldn't care less of SD isn't able to come but he wants her there so I feel for him. I know legally she can't do anything about it, this week is written into our CO for custody so they are our days, they have 50/50 legal and 60/40 custody and she's known about this for 6 months and knows exactly where we are going. I know she's going to do anything and everything to ruin this for us but sadly she will end up ruining it for SD too and she doesn't see it that way. Ugh!!
Yeah we're leaving in a few
Yeah we're leaving in a few days so we are out of luck with getting her if she doesn't give her to us. It's funny that she is requiring 30 days notice and tells us about this a few days before we leave.
Daddy should have his
Daddy should have his attorney write her a letter stating that if she fails to produce the kid for any, and especially the vacation, visitations the attorney will initiate proceeding to have the BM charged with criminal failure to obey a court order. Certified mail, return receipt requested - well the attorney knows what to do. Best hundred bucks you'll spend.
She will give her to us she
She will give her to us she pulls these kinds of stunts quite a bit. For instance if she gets wind that we are going away with out the kids she will say that SD is in the hospital and FDH needs to come quick! He never has and she's never been able to produce discharge papers and SD is on his insurance and they've never been able to confirm a visit to the ER during those time periods. She's just being dramatic. I guess tho she might follow through with one of her threats and I will enjoy watching her be held in contempt!!
It's the 30 days thing that
It's the 30 days thing that gets me. We live in a place where we are very close to 2 other states that we visit frequently for various reasons. We are within an hour of them. So every time we hop over to another state we have to give her 30 days notice in advanced? C'mon! She makes shit up then fully believes her lies. Genius
This is a good tactic. Let
This is a good tactic. Let the ogre be known.
Daddy can send her a email every weekend saying in 30 days or so he'll be taking the kid out of state. Send it every weekend. Unfortunately many of those trips will have to be cancelled.
We talked about that but SD
We talked about that but SD is 2 so it will be lost on her. Once she gets older though this will work. She knew we were going away because we requested a whole week usually we only have her for 5 days at a time. She approved it and so did the judge it's our parenting time she can piss off.
This is just ANOTHER way for her to get into our business. She requested an itinerary but that will not and was not provided. She is still way too hung up on FDH it's been over 2 years now since they've been broken up they were never married. She can't stand the fact that we are doing this together. I can't imagine what she's going to do when we go off on our destination wedding! (She will know no details of this but a secret part of me hopes she finds out and it crushes her)
We are living this exact
We are living this exact scenario.
DF (fiance) has just retained an attorney and he was advised to request in writing ONE MORE TIME for the CO summer parenting time. BM said a flat "no" and today a letter from her attorney came stating that at some point (probably right after the pigs flew out my ass) that both DF and BM agreed to only take one week each this summer, rather than two weeks. She can't provide any proof of that....and since they only communicate via text and email (rarely speaking) then ponying up the written conversation should be no problem.
Meanwhile we DO have the written requests, repeatedly, to have SS9 for two weeks on various dates. Each time she responds that she already has plans and we can't have him.
Yes, I'm at the point we should just tell SS9 that his mother won't let him come. But we will let DF's attorney instruct us on what to do.
Livid doesn't cover it.
But guess what!? Gauntlet thrown, challenge accepted.
Buckle up biatches.
Seriously!! I just don't get
Seriously!! I just don't get this. My ex husband and I are fine! I have primary physical custody but when he wants my kids for extra time guess what he gets it! THey're his kids too and the kids enjoy it just as much as he does. He's entitled to them just as much as I am what is the sense in blocking custody time? I've even changed my personal plans and my plans with my kids so they can have extra time with him if he requests it. DO these crazy BM's NOT realize that Dads are just as important as they are? It's pathetic and the only people that truly suffer are the kids and it's just wrong. I want to slap these BM's and tell them to wise up because their kids are going to grow up and resent them once they figure out the truth.