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If SO does not pay child support, what is your opinion on the clothes situation? Should kids go back to to BM in the clothes they came in or should we be providing clothing? What is your opinion on medical expenses? CO says med expenses are to be split half, but the bills come in SO's name and BM refuses to pay half. Kids are 50/50 by CO, but after FROR is enacted, SO has kids 75% of the time.
I say SO should suck it up and pay the med bills and the clothes as he is not paying child support.
If his custody is 50 50 with
If his custody is 50 50 with no child support offered he should be providing for the kids while in his care and she should be providing while they are in her care.
If she's reasonable and sends them in decent clothes, I see no need to make them change back into what they came in. They come in clothes and they leave in clothes. If your good clothes seem to dissapear at her house and you are left with small old unacceptable clothes, then send them back in what they came in .
Medical bills.....anything small I would just pay and call it a day. Anything g substantial I would ask for reimbursement for half.
If his custody is 50 50 with
If his custody is 50 50 with no child support offered he should be providing for the kids while in his care and she should be providing while they are in her care.
If she's reasonable and sends them in decent clothes, I see no need to make them change back into what they came in. They come in clothes and they leave in clothes. If your good clothes seem to dissapear at her house and you are left with small old unacceptable clothes, then send them back in what they came in .
Medical bills.....anything small I would just pay and call it a day. Anything g substantial I would ask for reimbursement for half.
If his custody is 50 50 with
If his custody is 50 50 with no child support offered he should be providing for the kids while in his care and she should be providing while they are in her care.
If she's reasonable and sends them in decent clothes, I see no need to make them change back into what they came in. They come in clothes and they leave in clothes. If your good clothes seem to dissapear at her house and you are left with small old unacceptable clothes, then send them back in what they came in .
Medical bills.....anything small I would just pay and call it a day. Anything g substantial I would ask for reimbursement for half.
OK, if SO has the kids 75% of
OK, if SO has the kids 75% of the time why would he pay CS? Yes, I know sometimes even fathers who have the kids 90% of the time get to pay BM...it makes me sick. You're wrong about him "sucking it up" and paying for everything. He should be sending BM copies of the bills with a note, "Your half is $X. Please send by (date)" She is court ordered to pay half, it does not matter whose name is on that bill.He CAN take her to court and win if she refuses to pay. And, yes, send them back in the clothes they come in.
And now I just re-read and
And now I just re-read and saw the CO is 50-50 but he ends up with 75...DOCUMENT the crap out of that. Then he should take her to court, get it changed to 75--25 officially and she should be paying him CS.
i have that same
i have that same situation..2skids...ss18(lives with us full time) sd13(50/50) or so you would think. I would like to she should help pay for half of everything. When they need something and they are with bm kids need to tell her but most likely they wait till they see dh. At least mine do. WE DO EVERYTHING FOR the kids....from shoes, clothes, braces, doctor visits, medicines, baptism, projects for school, report card night...i mean everything...and bm still claims to be a perfect mother. Bottom line at least in my situation, i can't control my sd taking her clothes to her moms cuz she's toooo lazy to wash so she needs to pick up clothes daily when she is with her. I tried to put a lid on it, but i came off as the bad guy at the time, ofcourse sd thought i was being a bitch.
So it don't matter at the end you will end up paying for most while that bm sits back at does NOTHING!!!!
In our state CS is mostly
In our state CS is mostly dictated on income, not custody. Percentage of custody barely makes a dent we are told. Also we keep a calendar. I feel like the amount spent on medical bills and clothes is probably a lot less than would be paid per year for child support.
Does this really work (as it
Does this really work (as it relates to medical)
If your DH has the skid 75%
If your DH has the skid 75% and BM has 25%, she is the one who should be paying CS. Sounds like you need to go back to court and get a new CO.
My DH and the BM have 50/50 custody of SD and no one pays CS. I think this is the way it should be.. if they both have skid half the time, why should one have to pay the other? Makes no damn sense to me.
Anyway, regarding clothes, we always send skid back to BM in the clothes she came in.