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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Wed, 09/21/2011 - 8:00pm

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I did not express what I was feeling correctly. As the replies came in, I realized what really bugged me. I want to correct it because I think I made a few people feel bad and that was NOT my intention at all. I am thankful for this site and the support and advice I've gotten!

This is what frustrates me...sometimes people who ask for advice really don't want it. They want to vent, which is perfectly fine. But if that's the case, don't ask for advice. Tell us it's just a vent. Everybody needs to blow off steam! When I, or other members here take a lot of time to answer a request for advice or help and it's not what the original poster wants to hear, they ignore it and gravitate only towards the replies that agree with them, what they WANT to hear. That's all I was talking about.

Please don't feel like you have to answer every single time I post...that's not what I meant! I'm happy to try and help you if I can...but please just keep an open mind, even if it's something you don't want to hear. I know sometimes I NEED to hear things that aren't pleasant...just necessary.

I apologize if I caused anybody to feel bad with my original post!! Now let's just hold hands and sing friggen kumbaya and poo rainbows and vomit sunshine or whatever else I've been reading that cracks me up!

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Submitted by Aeron on Wed, 09/21/2011 - 8:53pm

Sparkly pink unicorns that drool glitter and definitely poo rainbows. Now where are the s'mores?

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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Thu, 09/22/2011 - 6:12am

Awwww thanks evelilly, that was very kind to say! And no, the post had nothing to do with you! I don't have time now, but I want to respond to your last post. I have to take my sister for chemo today. Maybe I'll have time when we're at the hospital. I appreciate you as well! Don't go anywhere!

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 09/22/2011 - 2:25am

Hi Calgon. I missed your thread yesterday as I am in a different time zone to most members on this site. On the whole, since I joined about 6 months ago, I have been really impressed with the care and thought that most members put into replies and am grateful for them. However a few members do seem to have a strange attitude to posters that don't say what they want to hear. It's almost like road rage - because it's an anonymous forum, some people are not careful of others feelings at all and say the most disrespectful things.

There was one blog that I posted a reply on the other day, and myself and a number of others were all saying similar things, and the initiator of the blog really went for everyone, swearing at them, because the comments were not to her liking. I was taken aback, and made a mental note never to post anything to that person again.

I think because this is an internet forum, one has to be careful, because there is an illusion of intimacy, but none of us really know each other, and in my view this is a reason for offering people advice tentatively, because you don't have a clue how vulnerable the person asking for advice is. Also not getting upset if when you blog, people don't always have the same view as you, but if they don't, they shouldn't make you feel stupid or wrong. We are all coming from our different perspectives.

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Submitted by hbell0428 on Thu, 09/22/2011 - 11:19am

Don't worry about it......no matter what you do, say, think or feel - eventually you WILL rub someone the wrong way!! Smile I understood what you meant -- Good post & conversation! Take care