CS question for those NCP with multiple BM's
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BM1 gets X amount of money per child BM2 gets less (they agreed in mediation of court it's less by about 40 bucks). BM2 says she's taking DH to court for more support. I think I heard somewhere that one child can't get less than the other or more. Is that true? Do you pay more to one ex than another? So if we get an increase through court would BM1 be able to go back and get more because BM2 is getting more, etc etc.
Thanks!
From my experience, that is
From my experience, that is not how it works.
BM1 is mostly normal non
BM1 is mostly normal non confrontational BM2 is crazy and BM1 knows this and stays away from her they have no interaction. When BM2 and DH split (never married) she tried to get BM1 on her side and PAS kids with BM1 and DH against DH. BM1 had no parts of that and told her she was going to file harassment charges if she kept contacting her.
Yeah I guess that makes
Yeah I guess that makes sense. I'm all for child support when it's fair. My exH and I sat down looked at both of our finances and agreed on an amount that he should pay. A fair amount that still allowed him to breathe and live in a decent home and be able to be active with our kids. I know most people won't/can't do that but BM2 has a recent grudge and she's just trying to gouge him. Which I guess is just how it is, we will figure it out one way or another but the county that BM2 lives in does not factor in the support he pays to BM1 when calculating child support and it's really unfair in my opinion.
but the county that BM2 lives
but the county that BM2 lives in does not factor in the support he pays to BM1 when calculating child support
Well, that is bull and it should absolutely be factored in. Although, I must admit that even though it was taken into account with DH's CS, it did not make a huge difference.
It's going to depend on your
It's going to depend on your state's laws/guidelines. Some states do not figure in CP income while other's do. Some states factor in overnights.
In my own state this would be pretty cut and dried. The NCP pays 20% of income for 1 kid and 28% (to the same mother) if two kids. If this NCP went one to then have a third child with a new partner the first CS order still stands. Meaning NCP would pay 28% of income to BM1 and then be ordered to pay from the remaining 72%, 20% of it to BM2 for her child. So, no, here, BM2 would not be getting more and/or equal to what BM1 is getting. Your state could be completely different.
Check out how it works in your state (you might be able to google for worksheets and guidelines online to do that). Never believe what the CP tells you she can do or what DH must do. If in fact she 'can' do this or that she will actually attempt to and be either shutdown or awarded. Bottomline will be whatever either of them can/can't do neither of them will be able to take one or both of the CS orders combined over a set max. For example, if your state's cap is 50% of total income of the NCP for all CS, neither woman will be getting much of anything more from the NCP unless NCP has a serious income increase.
Do check your state, so many states do CS their own way that unless someone is actually facing the same situation in your same state and can help you with basic generic guidelines/laws that actually pertain to your state, you need to do your own look-see.
I can't imagine what it would be like for a NCP to pay two and three or even more CPs. To me that would be a nightmare with various women always calling and seeking more CS and/or extras for this or that. It must get very frustrating and as if 'will CS ever end', even for a NCP who works hard and is trying their best to help support all the children. I've been married to the one and only for so many years that I just can't relate to multiple CP all having different CS/CO plans.