Cuddling!!
Forums:
My SD just turned 9 & is all over my DH every chance she gets. We have normal spots on the couch where we normally sit. Well for about the past 3 months she doesn’t sit in her spot. She has to sit in between me and my husband. EVERY SINGLE TIME! My DH can’t sit on the couch without her sitting beside him and getting under his blanket and doing everything but sitting on top of him. If we are somewhere she has to be Right beside him. She tries to hold his hand every chance she gets. He often has to ask her to move over so he can have room to move. Does this ever stop?? I thought as she got older it would phase out but it hasn’t!! Does anyone else deal with this?
My formerSS (!) did this kind
My formerSS (!) did this kind of crap. He, was 13 when I left and still tried. Also wanted his dad to sleep with him (or whined to sleep with us -BIG HARD NO).
The only way to make it stop is for your dh to make it stop. I would just leave. FormerSO would ask where I was going. "I'm gonna let you two cuddle."
I noticed it got worse after
I noticed it got worse after I had my son. Like it’s super annoying!! She told her BM that I don’t love her any more, that I love her brother more, and all kinds of mess. But her BM told my DH this not me. She normally only talks to me not my DH. So it’s what makes me think it’s not true. Or it’s just seeking attention. Me and her are super close. Have always been but since my littlest was born it’s been a game changer.
She’s gotten worse since my
She’s gotten worse since my son was born. We don’t favor and we are sure to make sure that we do for both equally. How do you help them grow out of it? She has also had a MAJOR attitude her recently and it’s kinda like she’s against me. Like everything is daddy daddy daddy. And dad said this and dad does this. we have been together since she was 12 months
SD9 is similar, although not
SD9 is similar, although not quite as extreme, I’m sure mostly because I don’t let her steal my spot on the couch. If I’m not around she is right up on him leaning against him on the couch. When I go to sit next to my SO I make her scoot over. She’s fine with it and my SO backs me on it, but they have plenty of time to sit around where she can be all up on him since I’m not around a lot- when I am, it’s my turn to sit by him. Luckily we have a good relationship and she just knows these are the the rules and goes with it. But she also just has to run after him when he leaves the room. Or she’ll stand at the end of the couch by him trying to touch him or just standing close. We have them the majority of the time, it's not like she doesn't get to see him.
It used to be worse, but I cant wait for it to end. Hopefully it does end.
Lots of kids go through
Lots of kids go through phases like this when there is a new baby. You may think you treat them the same (and maybe you do in terms of appropriate care) but you know that babies need so much hands-on care and there is no way she isn't getting less attention than she was at your house. Not blaming, that is the way it has to be. Everything is a balance and we only have 24 hours in a day.
I was about this age when my brother was born into an intact family and my mother talks about me saying that my life had 'just gone downhill' since his birth. Well - it did. My parents who had all the time in the world for me before were now sleep deprived and focused on caring for a newborn.
My SD is 9 and does this with
My SD is 9 and does this with her father, and he loves it!!! he will never want it to stop. He tells me as such, they act more like a married couple then we do and he for sure treats her like his wife more so than me.