DH's sister is one of the nastiest people I know. I mean, she is so angry, jealous, petty, conniving. It never ends with her. And Sunday at SGS's Baptism was no exception. Just one thing after the next, building all night for a blow up, and finally snapped by the end of the evening!

DH & I were chatting with little SGS and SSIL when FIL arrives along with DH's sister.

To start, as usual she does not say hello to us at all, just stands there with that scowl on her face. That "I'm judging you" look as my sister who has seen it refers to it

I've become so accustomed to that behavior from her that it has no effect on me at all. I just carry on like I don't notice, not ever letting it effect my upbeat mood. And I've seen that DH has started doing that too

When we get to OSD's place, DH's sister is standing around in kitchen with FIL and the rest of the guests, still with that angry scowl on her face

DH asks SSIL if they have any water in the fridge, SSIL says yes and takes out the only two bottles in there and hands one to DH and one to me. Then FIL comments that he would like to have one too. So I say "here FIL, take mine". DH's sister is still standing there scowling, looking straight ahead as if I'm not there. I ask her if she would like water too. She continues staring straight ahead, but says that she thinks she would, never once even so much as looking at me. Very, very rude. I hand her the second bottle anyway and DH says "well what about us, I would like water" his sister turns around and slams the bottle of water I gave her in front of me and says "take it, I don't want it" and she is extremely hostile and angry as she does it. I'm surprised she didn't crack the bottle open she slammed it so hard.

I start to say not to worry about it I'll find more but she practically screams "I don't WANT it, I'll get MY OWN". Wow - total bitch.

Anyway she stomps off and finds extra water in a cupboard. Hands one to FIL and has one for herself. I do think even she was a bit embarrassed by her own outburst because she then says to me rather sheepishly that she prefers her water at room temperature anyway. So I say that's great, I like mine cold, and open mine up.

But it was when tater in the evening when DH's sister wandered up to where we were, talking to DH and completely ignoring me like I wasn't standing there (as usual) and DH asks her who is Disillusioned buying for, for the Christmas gift exchange - now the reason DH was asking is because every year his family does a draw for Christmas and every year all the names (even the NON blood family like me) are thrown into it. OSD and DH's sister then draw the names and put together the list of who is buying for who. Then DH's sister sends the list out, but only to blood family of course. And so when DH gets the email, he doesn't bother to pay any attention to it, and I of course have no idea who I'm supposed to buy for. So, I had asked him the day before who I was buying for and he of course had no idea. Anyway, when he asks his sister "who is Disillusioned buying for" she angrily says "I have no idea. I sent you the list DH"

DH says to her "ya, like I said, do you know who Disillusioned is buying for?" she says "Disillusioned show know who she's buying for, I sent you the list DH"

Normally I just shut up but this time it's something that concerns me, and it irritates me to no end that I'm good enough to be expected to buy for someone in their family Xmas draw, but not good enough to be communicated directly to regarding who I'm buying for. A small thing perhaps, but just another way of his sister making sure I know I'm NOT family and don't count

So I speak up and say to her that DH is asking her because I asked him yesterday if the list was sent out and who it is I'm buying for. That if it's someone out west like YSD or SSIL then I probably should have sent it already.

DH's sister snaps at me that "it's NOT YSD because I have her name"...(that's the other thing too, the whole draw is planned, not drawn, as I usually get one of the SSIL's) but anyway she then says "you SHOULD know who you're buying for, I sent the list to DH" meaning if it was sent to DH it was for both of us.

So I say "ya, well, like I said I have no idea who I'm buying for. So if you have a moment and can forward the email to me, that would be great"

She wasn't letting this go. She starts going on again about I should have it, it was sent to DH.

DH cuts in and says "you know SIL, it would be so much easier if you would just send these types of things directly to Disillusioned"

Well she lost it

She says "Well I'm SORRY DH" "I am SOOOOO sorry DH for MY mistake" I'm so sorry that I sent YOU the list" "so SORRY for my MISTAKE"

DH wasn't being bullied. He says again to just send it to Disillusioned next time. I had to fight not to break out with a smirk on my face

She sent me a text message that night. It said I was buying for YSSIL (gee what a surprise!) and DH was buying for OSSIL (wow,really?!) and that it was strange DH didn't have the email that she had sent to him with this info some time ago

Man, she can be such a bitch!