Double Standards of Divorce and stupid BM !!! BM believe she has a golden vagina just because she gave birth to a child.
BM wants to know everything that’s going on in OUR house and relationship, but doesn’t offer and even refuses to share, information regarding her own relationship or household. (Not like we care, but we care about her being nosy)
BM demands to be invited to any and everything regarding the child, but doesn’t even tell my husband about the activities that she plans for the child.
BM is adamant about having unlimited access to the child while she is in her ex-husband’s care, but dad’s access is very limited and strictly based on BM's rules alone.
BM tend to be more intrusive and remain bitter and angry for much longer than my husband, post-divorce.
My husband is my hero I must say. He puts the unreasonable and ignorant miserable bitch to her place every single time she acts immature, she just refuses to change.
Her behavior leads me to wonder, All of the above information supports the claims that double standards, more often than not, exist between the ex-wife and the ex-husband. What I, along with many others, can’t understand is why they exist. More importantly, why are these double standards continually accepted by society? Why do mothers think they have more rights than fathers who are just as involved (or at least want to be) in their child’s life? Why does society view ex-wives who exhibit this behavior, as victims who are just in pain, or the protective mama bears who are just trying to protect their children? Why does society convince us to believe that the children need protection from a father who is fighting to be with his children?
I’ve always been an advocate of and highly encouraged healthy boundaries from the very beginning of the divorce. Having a child gives neither parent an all access pass into each others’ lives after the divorce. Neither parent needs detail regarding what’s going on in their ex-spouse’s relationships or marriage or household (unless of course it is harming the child). Furthermore, when the child is in your house, the parent caring for him or her at that time is in charge of the child. Both parents are in charge of their respective households and allowing overlap only leads to the double standards mentioned above.
Your thoughts?
You read my mind girl!!!! My
You read my mind girl!!!! My BM is exactly the same! If one of the kids is sick...she calls and freaks out and gives DH all instructions on how to handle it and wants the kids home with her and want to be the one who takes them to the Doctor....like really bitch? Please.....their Father can take care of them just as well and alot of the time much better than she can!! I chalked it up to early in thre relationship as a "mama bear" thing...now i know the truth.
It has NOTHING to do with her Motherly instincts...cause trust me..this woman is a shit Mom. She would pick partying and having coke snuffed off her ass any day to her children. She does it cause she wants CONTROL. Its all about control with her. She has none over us so shell try and use the kids to gain some. Shes a stupid, ignorant cow face bitch. lol
Agree! Most BM's don't tell
Agree! Most BM's don't tell the dads about school stuff. Be grateful she did. They all take place in the middle of the afternoon.
Yeah. My thoughts exactly.
Yeah. My thoughts exactly. WTF? Stupid witch.
Exactly my thought. If she
Exactly my thought. If she scheduled parent-teacher conference, that is her call. She doesn't need to inform anybody regarding this. It is not a requirement for both parents to show up.
BM called us and said, "SD6 needs a haircut, I am going to take her to this stylist, YOU (dh) can come if you want to." Sure, what she said is not against the law, but we as a new family does not care. Period, end of the story.
Just because BM needs to "tweet", doesn't mean we want to participate. She needs a hobby, a job, or simple get a life. There is always a Golden Retriever waiting to be adopted.
Pathetic.
I think the BM's might be
I think the BM's might be scared if the BF had a chance to do things their way, they'd OUTDO the BM. It's the same way in my husband's situation, and I tell him that is all a matter of her insecurities. She knows that the way she is raising her son is wrong in many ways, but she makes excuses for SS's behaviors, when it's actually her doings. This is where her insecurities stem from.
OMG.....perfect example of
OMG.....perfect example of the golden vagina....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DH just got home and said that BM sent him a picture of the juice box he put in the kids lunchboxes for School and said never to give them that crap again...like are u fucking kidding me? Its a juice box? Control much? Bitch :sick:
We were told by a
We were told by a psychiatrist friend that she is a narccistic control freak and the only thing you can do in order to get her to fuck off and leave you alone (as much as this physically makes me ill)...you have to just agree with her and leave it at that. What happens at our house is our business with the kids and DH's time with them. For god sakes he is their parent too....but like today with the text message..she sent it and we both said she's a psycho bitch...he sent back a message that said "k"..short and sweet. He didn't agree at all!! But it gets her to shut up becasue she "thinks" she got her own way. NOT!! Its a BM mind fuck!!! Bruhahahahaha (evil laugh) it works!
Absolutely. I suspect there
Absolutely.
I suspect there are a lot of women who suffer from personality disorder (Borderline, Narcissistic personality disorder)
I believe BM and my mother in law are both suffering from some kind of mental disorder. In a way, it is not entirely their fault. It is just hard to live with them.
thank you for this post!
thank you for this post! seriously, this is BM to a T, except she's worse bc her and SO were never 'a couple'(they dated for one week...as if that really counts) so i feel she (and any BM, really...whether they were in a relationship or not) has little right to intrude in SO's life, other than to talk about SS3.5's basic needs etc.
the last time my SO gave her the summons for court, she went so nuts she claimed she was going to take my SO for spousal support (over a ONE WEEK RELATIONSHIP)--then her stupid lawyer let her try! SO said the judge actually cracked a smile at that point in the hearing. obviously she didn't get it (or any of the other crazy crap she wanted that day hahaha)
i think she has platinum uterus syndrome.