"Family" Pictures
I have been trying to vent less on STalk lately... but I have some bottled up shit that I need to get out.
Last time SS10 visited, his mother sent him with a box of pictures for DH. DH and I have been together for a while... he's been divorced for years. So it's not like he's in the process of moving out still.
Some of the pictures were things I understood - his old high school pictures that he must have had mixed in with her pictures, etc. But... then all the pictures of the 2 of them with skids when they were little. Pictures of the two of them when they started dating.
Now - I understand that SS10 might have thought these were cool - like any kid looking at old pics of his parents. BUT FUCK! He and DH sat going through all of them while DH brought back all of his old memories.
I know that they are his memories to have... but I don't want to hear them!! The BM is a horrible, nasty person who has PASed the two oldest kids and works on SS10 every chance she gets. She takes him to court over every single thing she can. It's just about the highest conflict relationship you could imagine.
WHY, Why, WHY did she send those pictures? Just to piss me off? I know its not to be "nice".
I agree. She did this on
I agree. She did this on purpose for sure. No woman is that dumb to have done this innocently. She knew what it would cause. I agree with you as well formygirl on that the pictures would not remain in my home. Absolutely not.
Yes, any woman that was over
Yes, any woman that was over her ex, wouldn't send back pictures of them when they were dating over to the new wife's house.
It was clearly done on purpose, she should of showed them to her son and kept them.
I would send them back to her or speak to your husband in a calm manner that you feel uncomfortable with having them in your home.
Do not take her too personal, this is an attempt to make you mad, in which it worked.
just know that you are married to him, she is not.
you won his heart in the end.
Smile and know that you and your husband have created many many memories that those pictures will never compare to!
Package up the pictures and
Package up the pictures and have your DH include a note, with wording along the lines of:
"BM, thanks for sending the pics of kids and I - appreciate it. The kids and I had a chance to relive times gone by, and it is nice to know that they have many fond memories of their times with dear old dad.
But I wanted to draw your attention to the fact you mistakenly included pics of me with you. While you may be longing for the good old days, I have in fact moved on with my life. That's why I thought you might like to have them back - it gives you a chance to dream about maybe having a relationship for yourself someday. My wife and I really don't have space for these old photos in our home. We are very happy with the life we have and look forward to our wonderful future together, not rehashing failed relationships from the past. So .... Enjoy!"
There. Ding her for both her wasted efforts at PAS ... and trying to poke a stick in your eyes!
Thank you. This is helpful. I
Thank you. This is helpful. I kept thinking... "Did she accidentally include that one... or that one... or THAT one?" Then I realized that there were so many inappropriate ones, I couldn't just be imagining that she did it on purpose.
^^^THAT seriously made my
^^^THAT seriously made my day!
this is the best bon fire
this is the best bon fire story ever! make me wish i would of been there to see it.
Yeah, I agree. What a great
Yeah, I agree. What a great moment!!
Your husband is
Your husband is awesome...talk about actions speaking louder than words!!
Tossing them in the trash in
Tossing them in the trash in front of the deliverer (or fire as above) is the perfect response.
We've recently gotten
We've recently gotten pictures like that as well. They've been divorced for over 10 years! In my case, I think it's a passive-aggressive move to remind DH that he has SD21 because we just had two babies (BS2 and BS1). She had put their house up for sale almost 4 years ago (and didn't sell it) but only now sends them?
She also sent DH's old yearbooks and college degrees. It seems that every time SD comes over (only since the boys were born) there's more crap. Ugh.
What keeps me quiet is that DH has never touched them. I consolidated all the photos and put them in one spot. He wouldn't be able to find them if it wasn't for me, so he clearly doesn't really care.
EWWWW...what a crazy bitch.
EWWWW...what a crazy bitch.
Wow. I worry that this is my
Wow. I worry that this is my future. Ugh. :sick:
Wow. Just... wow. Your SS
Wow. Just... wow.
Your SS probably didn't want pictures of his mom's tits - and I sure as shit wouldn't want to see that.
One time, while going through DH's computer, I found a nude picture of BM. I had half a thought of posting it all over facebook, twitter, and instagram. LOL. But, I deleted it and made him feel like an ass for having it.
In all honesty, I don't think he knew it was there. It was in an old folder that he had saved from an old computer. It still makes me sick when I think about it.
Ohhh, our crazy BM literally
Ohhh, our crazy BM literally gave DH a shoebox full of pictures from Their wedding some 15 plus years ago- AT- Dhs dads Funeral!!!!! No joke!! There were a select few pics if the kids when they were little thrown in too. They were quickly deposited into the trash outside the funeral home- except for the kids pics. Ugh!!!!
To make matters even harder, is that DH & I got married a short month before his Dad passed. She also put up a good 20 pics Id say of those same wedding pics on SS14s Facebook page & Tagged both me & DH un the photos via SSs FB & Changed SSs password so DH couldnt delete them under the pitiful guise of "your Dad looked good in those pictures". Yea right crazy lady!!! My friends & Family were awfully confused why they were put on there right after OUR wedding pics!!! Ugh!!! Crazy. Crazy. Crazy!!!!
Talk about shitty timing!!!
I think it was definitely
I think it was definitely done to cause problems in your home. I can see her sending back DH's old pics but to send pics of them together is completely inappropriate. I would not allow any pics of BM in my house. I actually have already gone through DH's pics and thrown out the ones of her.
DH had a stcak of pictures of
DH had a stcak of pictures of when he adn BM were together. They were all given to SS to do with as he pleased. I don't really care about them as I know DH hates her, but I guess the kid might want that when he is older?