Hi I am fairly new here, I've posted on a few peoples posts but have never posted on my own... Anyway, I do not trust my ss8 with my son and I am not sure how to cope with it. My son is just about 3 months old and my ss8 has only seen him twice but both times I have this horrible sinking feeling that if given the chance he would do something to hurt him. He always tries to poke at him (literally poke his face) and I have caught him "accidentally" trying to hit him with toys. I rarely leave him alone with him even for just a few minutes because the one time I didn't sit in the backseat of the car with him and the baby, my baby started screaming within minutes. I know babies cry but my baby is a very content baby and rarely cries and almost never in the car. Coincidence? I am really worried. I've said right from the beginning that his ss8 needs some kind of therapy. DH attempted to get it for him but BM refuses and limits our visitation to once every couple months. I mean he's gone through alot, any child should have therapy. Long story short BM moved in her new bf about 2 weeks after my DH moved out, after that she had him calling the other man daddy and he had seen them in bed. Then DH and I met fairly soon after and were married about a year later. BM and I both had babies within a couple of months of each other. So there is alot going on in this kids life but I have this gut wrenching feeling that ss8 may grow up to be a disturbed man. To validate my feelings we just found out that ss8 has been acting out at school, assaulting/bullying other kids, distrupting class by falling out of his desk, etc. The teacher has requested he see a Dr, and seek counselling. BM of course has done none of that and DH has no say really. The court system has not been working for us as BM is living with a police officer and plays the victim everytime we are there (you should see the waterworks ;))

Anybody have any suggestions I am at a loss other than strapping my baby to me and hiding.