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Step mom of 2 adult children - 18 year old daughter - 22 year old son. Love my guy with all of my heart but I cannot stand how he babies and spoils his kids. They have no sense of responsibility, zero work ethic and a distorted view of reality. Don't get me started on the sense of entitlement thing. His son is has been living in California since October (finally got a job today) so I can't complain much at the moment in regards to him- not to mention at least with his son I can parent/ scold/ dole out advice and the kid still loves me. But his daughter.... Is it wrong to say that I hate her? I mean - I care about her but I do-not-like-her. The one time I rode her for stupid, inconsiderate stuff she had been doing (that had been building) it caused a massive 3 day fight between me and my guy with me leaving the house and us not talking all because she told him that I made her feel unwelcome in "her own home". He automatically took her side, like always, only to find out that I was right all along. She snoops through my stuff, takes my stuff, lies, conveniently forgets, is lazy as shit and passive aggressive. What kills me is that even when they're wrong ---they're not wrong---.

He tells me to feel free to discipline her (he knows in his heart that I am very fair) but when I do it causes major tension along with MASSIVE resentment. I feel like I'm fighting a battle that I cannot win with the end result being the demise of our relationship. Help.