I have been no contact with my personality disordered MIL since early 2018.  In our final conflagration, I finally lost patience and hurled a number of truths at her, ie she only ever called my DH when she wanted something; she was guilty of child abuse for sending him to boarding school in a separate African country to the one they lived in, aged 7; and for taking her 3 adolescent sons to a nudist colony for a holiday.  Having said these things, I doubt if I will ever speak to her again - and tbh this is a massive relief to me.  DH is back in email only contact with her, but I really can't see me ever setting foot in her house again. She will definitely not set foot in mine. 

She was a lovely, kind, empathetic person.  She never ever gave unsolicited parenting or marriage advise and she identified DHs ex as a controlling biatch when they were high school sweethearts.  She did her best to nudge him in the right direction but knew enough to not openly object.  DHs ex treated my ILs like crap when they were married and worse when they divorced.  I was lucky to have her in my life for over 20 years.  Her husband, my FIL, was as kind and loving as his wife.

Now my first MIL?  She Couldn't be bothered to speak to me or my bios, her grandchildren.  She was furious that a Catholic girl lured her nice Methodist soon into marriage.

My MIL told me I had a "victim complex" because I didn't appreciate being ignored most of the weekend, having travelled 3 hours to get there, and not having seen her for several years,  while she and her husband watched sport on TV.   

My MIL is a nice woman.

My XMIL otoh, turned out to be an embezzler of $Millions.  I actually liked her fine while I was marreid to her daughter though there was always something not quite right about her that would surface  upon occassion.

DH and I are expecting a baby. MIL's latest is that she told DH that I just have to stay home with the child for at least three years. She told DH that she and FIL managed to stay home and they were "broke" because FIL *only* made $43k at the time (in the 1970s), but they still managed to do it. I'm not sure if MIL realizes that some people have to make ends meet on $43k (or even less) today. Also, housing prices in our area have skyrocketed. MIL and DH's family also refuse to see that being a divorced NCP has huge financial implications. Finally, I am the family breadwinner, so who would be paying for everything, including a place for precious SSs to stay 4 days a month if I were to quit my job to become a SAHM?

I loved DH's Mom. But my ex MIL was a real piece of work.

She was just plain stupid, and why speak in a calm voice when yelling was so much more fun.  Anyway, she bought mostly generic groceries/canned goods. Generic, which she pronounced "genetic." I had to leave the room when she asked me one time if I wanted any of her genetic soup.

See my MIL is passive aggressive maybe? I can't figure her out....like she acts nice all the time but at the same she is always a victim.......she also is timid and weird so she  can't  just say what's on her mind......so she says a bunch of garbled nonsense....then cries over everything......because ya know...her son divorced his poor first wife and these poor poor skids. Barf.