GIFT FOR SD BDAY!
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MY SD IS TURNING 16 NEXT WEEK...WHAT SHOULD I GET HER?
I HAVENT BEEN THE SAME FOR THE LAST COUPLE OF YEARS CONCERNING THE GIFTS.
I USED TO SEND HER FLOWERS, CANDIES, GIFT CARDS FOR EVERY OCCASION (EASTER, BEFORE A COMPETITION, BDAYS, XMAS)...MISSY GETS 40 DOLLARS A WEEK AS AN ALLOWANCE BY HER MOM AND NEVER DID SHE SEND A CARD FOR MY KIDS (HER HALFSIBLINGS)...
SO SINCE LAST YEARS BDAY, WE ONLY GIVE HER A GIFT IF SHE COMES OVER AROUND THE OCCASION.
XMAS SHE DIDNT COME, SHE GOT NOTHING!
SHE WOULDVE NEVER GOTTEN ANYTHING IN THESE PAST 12 YRS IF IT WASNT FOR ME...DAD DOESNT THINK ABOUT THOSE THINGS...HE SAYS SHES A HYPOCRITE AND ITS NOT LIKE DESERVES IT...WHICH IS TRUE...
BUT I STILL HAVE TO SEND HER SOMETHING...BUT LIKE WHAT? THANK U!
Why on earth do you have to
Why on earth do you have to send her a gift? What will happen if you don't?
If you really need to send her something, send her a beautiful card from your DH and you.
CAUSE SHE IS WHAT U CALL A
CAUSE SHE IS WHAT U CALL A SNOB..MISSES LIKES THE MONEY, THE GOLD JEWELRY ON HER WRIST, NECK, EARS, BELLYBUTTON.......THE IPHONE, THE FANCY SEXY CLOTHES...
CAUSE IF WE DONT, WE R CALLED CHEAP! AND SELFISH AND THAT WE DONT CARE ABOUT HER...
THIS IS WHAT I MEAN! ITS ALL ABOUT WHAT U GIVE AND WHAT U HAVE WITH HER AND HER MOM...
IM TRYING TO BE DISSENGAGED AND GOD KNOWS IVE WORKED SO HARD AT IT FOR THE LAST COUPLE OF YRS BUT I DONT WANT HER TO SAY LATER ON...WELL MY DAD DIDNT GIVE ME ANYTHING FOR MY SWEET SIXTEEN..
HER NEW STEPDAD BUYS THEM EVERYTHING....WHAT A PITY...THE GUY DOESNT KNOW HALF OF IT!
u will be called cheap or
u will be called cheap or something horrible anyway, but its cheaper without the gift
ditto to what ms taylor says.
ditto to what ms taylor says. dads never think of all the little stuff moms do and i to have done all of that too i am starting to really slow down but try not to be obvious about it. if you feel bad send just a card and no more or nothing since he said thats is what she deserves i would go with it.
Sounds like your DH is OK
Sounds like your DH is OK with not worrying about it, though. You can stay disengaged, thank goodness.
THANK U SO MUCH..THIS USED TO
THANK U SO MUCH..THIS USED TO BE A REALLY BUT REALLY BIG DEAL FOR ME..WITH THE GIFTS AND ALL...
I HAD PLANNED A LONG TIME AGO TO NAME A STAR AFTER HER ON HER SWEET 16...BUT I DIDNT!
SHES NOT MINE LIKE HER MOM HAS TOLD ME WELL YOU KNOW WHAT IM NOT HER MOTHER TOO...SO SCREW HER...
MY HUSBAND SEES RIGHT THROUGH HER AND HES EVEN VERY UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND HIS OWN DAUGHTER CAUSE SHE IS JUST SO FAKE ....UGHHHHHHHHHH...
SUCH A SHAME CAUSE I NEVER LET THAT KID MISS OUT ON ANYTHING, I EVEN WOULD PUT MY KIDS ON THE SIDE FOR HER CAUSE OF THE GUILT...STILL AM A BIT LIKE THAT BUT I WATCH MY BACK...TOO BAD!:(
euh sorry!!!! hahahaha....im
euh sorry!!!! hahahaha....im not angry!!! thank u!
My StepDEVIL's 14th is coming
My StepDEVIL's 14th is coming up next Saturday. I asked the DH if he was going to take her to dinner, get her a gift...he said I'll send her a card to her mother's home since she can't be kind enough to come visit or pick up the phone in the past month to reach out to me.
I got her really nice gifts the past couple of years. I do get a thank you, but it's a forced one, you can easily tell it almost HURTS her to say it! I'm like you, don't want to come off as cheap or whatever, but now, since she hasn't called her father, grandfather or anyone in a month, nor does she want to spend any time with anyone other than her mother, we'll just let her precious momma take care of her birthday!
We each buy for our own kids.
We each buy for our own kids. I used to buy for my SD's & realized it was not really appreciated but expected by not only the SD but DH as well. So now I buy for mine & if he remembers he will buy some little something for his.