God hate her...Please tell me
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I really hate her...I teach my children NOT to hate but I HATE Her!!
Plese tell me what you all do to get rid of this hate..
She treats my husband like a paycheck, does not acknowledge my daughter..
I find myself thinking of ways to get her back but the CO is "ofcourse" in her favor..
I am a BM too...I don't treat my X the way she treats my husband..
How do I end this madness.
It is hard for me to sit back because we try to elimate expenses and she creates them.
I agree with Echo here.
I agree with Echo here.
"Hating her like this is like you taking poison and waiting for her to die." This is one of the truest statements I've read on this site.
You MUST accept that she will not change. She is who she is and it will NEVER change. She is not you and she does not abide by the same rules you do. Accept her for who she is and move on.
It's HARD, nobody is saying it's easy, but if you want peace in your life and in your home you must get to a place where she cannot hurt you anymore. Accept that being a decent human being is impossible for her, lower your expectations, it helps a lot.
But it's especially hard when I see her hurting DH or skids. Hopefully, your DH doesn't let her get to him too much.
If he is "required" to pay
If he is "required" to pay for certain things, he needs to tell her he can't afford it (through email) and simply not pay her. Let her take him to court to collect. You have a 50/50 chance that the judge will side with him, because while often the papers do require a certain % be paid by the ncp, it is not so cut and dry, especially when you can show it is being abused. Or he can take HER to court to change that requirement. Anything my kids do comes out of cs, except for medical. If the mom wants to sign her up, SHE should pay for it. If dad wants to sign her up, HE should pay for it.
As far as getting rid of the hate...exercise. Meditate. Alcohol. Target practice. (Not in that order!)Chances are she will never change, so you need to find a way to keep her out of your head. I'm dealing with a piece of work myself and there are days it can be overwhelming.
You are all right.. I just
You are all right..
I just feel like crying..
My husband is a good person..
I am a tough chick though..and I will go back to this post a couple
of times to get the that girl back..
We are a business..she does not matter...
My soul belongs to me...