Good enough reason not to vacation with skids?
Last time we went on vacation
- I foot the bill for way more than I should have. Paying for my SO's kids, his mom and him at dinner, lunch etc. is expensive and even though we 3 adults took turns paying it still is way too much money. I spent less money going to barbados myself and actually went to eat at nice places and did things I wanted to do.
- SO blasts the radio to sports games or puts on the tv to sports games that his son wants to watch constantly without asking me. I end up putting in my earplugs or ear buds most of the time.
-My skids are spoiled and I've grown tired of tantrums over not buying thier 100th toy, their fighting or eaitng where they want to. I understand at home they will have tantrums but why sunject myself to it on vacation. I'd rather be working lol.
-MIL spoils skids and makes everything worse. She also takes jabs at me. I feel like an outsider with little support.
Are these good enough reaosns not to go?
Yeah that is plenty of
Yeah that is plenty of reasons for you not to go. You're going on vacation, if you have to deal with all that BS you might as well go to work or just take vacation on your own without all the headache. I don't blame you for not wanting to go and its sad that your SO and his mother have spoiled these kids so much that you are not able to enjoy yourself.
Can you imagine how many more future vacations you may have like this......
The point of a vacation
The whole point of a vacation is to destress so you can go back to your job recharged. If your vacation is causing you stress, the whole point of the vacation is missed. It is YOUR vacation from YOUR job- those that don't have jobs don't have anything to vacate from, so they are tagging along your trip, not vice-versa. The vacation you described above, doesn't sound like a vacation that I'd ever want to go on again.
Sounds good to me!
Though one of my favorite friends taught me something recently... she said that anyone over 30 who pays their own bills has the right to revert back to childish behavior and use “I DON’T WANT TO” (while sticking your fingers in your ear) as an excuse for anything. She was basically telling us not to explain ourselves to anyone. Try it girl! :)
Lol that’s great!
Lol that’s great!
Gads, that is NOT a vacation
Gads, that is NOT a vacation - it's a nightmare. Let SO go on that nightmare of a vacation. YOU book yourself in a spa, take a fun and relaxing solo trip, or take a trip with a girlfriend.
If you DO go (~shudder~), be tight with your money and keep your wallet closed. SO can spend money on the skids. Not you.
My husband and his brother
My husband and his brother went to visit relatives in West Texas. Between that trip and our respective doctor appointments (we do our medical stuff in different states) we will have been apart for about 2 1/2 weeks. I adore my DH and I never have to see his disgusting spawn (SS33), but I am enjoying having some time to myself - even if I now have to do all the stuff DH usually does like grocery shopping, laundry, etc.
Yes these are good reasons
Yes these are good reasons not to go. I didn’t go on their last vacation. Skids fight too much and I have to pay for half of everything. We are going on one soon I agreed to go because it’s a short car ride to the destination and it won’t cost me a thing. I informed DH a long time ago that I refuse to pay for him and his kids. No more money from this lady.
For your own sake STOP
For your own sake STOP throwing away all that money. Sure sounds like you're unhappy about it so don't do it anymore.
Def do a solo vacation or with a gf!
All of them are great reasons!
All of the above are great reasons not to go.
In addition if they go you can take a staycation and pamper yourself. I call that a win win.
I feel you on the MIL. I call mine D(Disney)MIL the original GUBM template in DHs life.