Or rather- DH failed to drag his butt to the car and make him come.

DH has his boys every other weekend. He drove out to pick them up (they live about 2 hours away) and SS7 threw a tantrum that his dad wasn’t going to take him to a taekwondo tournament on Saturday. (Note, this isn’t a real tournament. It’s something they have for little kids at his taekwondo school where everyone gets a trophy)

DH had been driving back and forth taking the boys to activities on his weekends so SS7 expected his dad would take him and had a fit when he was told he couldn’t because his dad has to work this weekend. I will not drive 4 hours to take the boys anywhere and their BM had a baby a few months ago so she won’t come pick them up and take them to things either.

DH didn’t know what to do with SS7, so he left him with BM so he could go to the tournament instead dragging his butt to the car and enforcing his right to visitation. DH's rational was that since he was going to have to work, he wasn’t going to see the boys much anyway and he didn’t want SS7 being a pouty little brat here with me.

When DH got home with SS9, SS9 was still whining about why he has to be here when SS7 got to stay at “home” and why DH can’t go visit him and SS7 the way he goes and visits SD15 (sure, DH can take vacation days 3 weekends a month traveling to see his kids so they can do all the sports they want :roll:).

DH said he knows it’s a slippery slope and sets a bad precedent to let SS7 decide not visit, but he’s too worried about the boys resenting him for all the things they couldn’t do since they had to drive out here to do anything about it.