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Got a text from SD13.. and now I feel guilty

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Submitted by stepmomof1biomomof1 on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 2:24pm

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SD13 has lots of issues. Liar, not the smartest cookie, can not keep friends, has been screaming in my face the last 3 times we had her, is extremely jealous of everybody and every situation, wants constant attention.. the list goes on and on.
She text me today while at school and said "I'm sorry for being disrespectful. I will try to be nicer and I should treat you better." Sad
We got along for the most part until recently.
I am trying to not get my hopes up that we have turned a corner but I guess we will see this weekend when we have her.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 2:28pm

Actions speak louder than words:) It's a good sign that she may realize that her behavior is impacting other people negatively and that she isn't the only one that has feelings. Unfortunately, teen girls can be a mess and tough to deal with.

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 10:23pm

Why feel guilty about this.... ever. She has texted you a few words which mean absolutely ZERO until she demonstrates improvement through her actual behavior.

Write it and her off until she steps up with behavior. Until then... Yawn!

Hopefully this is an actual epiphany on her part and not either a blip on the RADAR screen or the set up for a manipulation.

Take care of you....

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 2:39pm

I have been trying with Winona SD18, and its been working quite well. Being nice and friendly instead of reserved, including her in conversations. Leaving her mostly alone. Im still tired of having her around 24/7.

The guilt is part of the stepparent trap right?

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 2:44pm

Words mean nothing. If she doesn't back those words up with consistent, sustained, heartfelt action, they're meaningless.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 2:45pm

She's 13? Hmmmmm, I think I've seen/heard this type of speak before. I think it's teen code speak for buttering up the adult in preparation for the huge 'can I go/do/have _____?' they're about to drop on you.

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Submitted by Thumper on Wed, 04/26/2017 - 5:06pm

13 is a hard age. Maybe she is trying.

Try to remember this about the word Guilt, ok?

Guilt is for an immoral or illegal action. Usually the folks who should feel guilt seldom feel it OR anything for that matter, as the mow over the next person.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Thu, 04/27/2017 - 2:04am

stop feeling guilty - I replied on your other post more but forgot to say this.