how do u predict his kids will turn out?
I am trying to predict how my (now) ex's kids will turn out as adults, and since I am not going to see them grow up, I'm just guessing. You guys have more experience than me, so what is your take.
Boy #1 is 6. He was conceived by casual sex. BD can't stand the BM and tends to treat this son differently because of his aversion to BM. He is only 6, but a damn good kid. I'd adopt him in a heartbeat if I could. Yet, he gets blamed for EVERYTHING. If his little brother falls, it's somehow always this kids fault. If little brother is crying, it's probably something this kid did. If little brother puked, it's probably something this kid gave him to eat/drink. And he can never do anything right - if he does poorly on homework, BD will ask " Is this how your mom told you how to do it?" Anything his dad tells him to do, he does it without any argument.
Boy #2 is 5 and a Golden Child because of the Golden Uterus he came from. BD and BM are "good friends" now 4 years post-divorce. The kid still wants to sleep with daddy. And is such a damn cryyyy baby. He is forever hurting his pinky, or his toe, or he fell on his knee and booo-hoooo over every.little.thing. He'll sit on daddy's lap and just cry. Daddy will then coddle him and blame his older brother. And once, I witnessed this kid fall and blame his brother who was NOWHERE near him. Daddy also told older brother once...."when your brother is laying on the floor crying after falling, don't just stand there and watch him. You go and HELP him". His dad will tell him to do something, and the kid will "argue" his way out of it - I.E. eat 3 more bites of meat. "No, I only want 1 more bite".
hmmmmm...sounds like my 2
hmmmmm...sounds like my 2 step sons, ages 38 and 40.
Let's see...the older one (if he is lucky) will work his way through college and sacrifice a lot for his education.
He will go on to be a respectable, self supporting, good guy with a good wife. Sure he will have ISSUES from the way he was treated as a child but he will keep his issues to himself and just keep his head down and his guard up and take care of his family. He will visit his father out of a sense of obligation but his happiness will come from his wife and children and he will consider them his ONLY REAL family.
The younger one will be a lazy, disrespectful piece of crap with an attitude that "the world owes me - especially my daddy". He will waste daddy's money and flunk out of college. He will run up credit card bills and other bills that daddy will pay. He will marry a lazy, gold digging bitch and together they will teach their children how to mooch off grandpa for the rest of their lives.
Just sayin...