They say you gotta fight crazy with crazy but damn, I dont know where to even start. Actually, I guess we are going to start with our lawyer but idk where thats going to lead. The crazy BM had gotten SS11 diagnosed with some disorders without his fathers knowledge of anything (previous post). My fiance went and met with the Dr last Friday and the Dr was completely snow balled. He thought BM was still an RN (hasn't been for 4 years and got fired for stealing pills). Had no clue of her past drug addiction or her mental illnesses. He didn't even think my fiance was in his boys life even though he has 50% custody! We found out the Dr had already given her a month's worth of Adderall for SS11. This was based on a 2 1/2 hour visit with BM and SS11 - where he even said that BM did most of the talking. There were also evaluations done by the teachers at school. The Dr only had one out of three of them. She kept the other two. When my fiance went in he did one as well. ALL of the eval's except BM's had NO PROBLEM AREAS for SS11!!! BM's eval was off the charts! Every single thing was wrong! The Dr even said its rare for a kid to have EVERYTHING wrong! Once he got the whole story from my fiance, he said he doesn't feel SS11 should be on the meds and that he was going to call BM and tell her not to start them and he wants SS11 to see psychologist alone for first meeting. We completely agree. We told her what was going on, we knew she woldn't be happy. We sent that text when she was at a wine festival too She went off! She told my fiance that she spoke to the secretaries and they told her in their exact words "he was a complete d*ckhead when he came in here and if he shows up again, we are calling the cops and filing harassment" That was only the beginning! OH and you should hear the sweet message left on his VM about getting copies of all the eval's from the secretary! But the bottom line was until she hears from the Dr, she was starting the adderall on Monday as prescribed! The Dr said he would call her before Monday. On Monday, she said she still hadn't heard from the Dr, my fiance was a big liar and thats all he does is lie and blah blah blah. My fiance called the Dr again, left a VM and explained what she's been saying and still had every intention on starting meds. So Tuesday comes, my fiance went into the school and had a meeting with SS11's teachers and school counselor - all agreed they were surprised they were doing eval's for him and he has no behavior issues outside of an average 5th grader. My fiance lets her know he went, this is how he feels and now after talking to all teachers AND doc, he is still not consenting to giving his son the meds. Again, she flips! Said she spoke to the Dr, he never told her NOT to give him the meds and how hes being so sneaky going around meeting with the teachers without her and blah blah blah…I mean it was an endless amount of text! He only sent the one, we don't ever go back and forth with her. The Dr called my fiance again yesterday, he said " I heard you made it into the office and we didn't have to call the cops on you!" Obviously sarcastic. He said he called BM on Monday and told her not to start the meds and she agreed. He wasn't very happy when we told him she already did. He said he'd call her again because SS11 cannot see a psychologist if hes using Adderall! Clearly!
Every day its something! It really takes a toll sometimes and I won't lie, I may have a moment where I think how much less stressed I'd be if it was just me and my two boys but it passes and I know my fiance is my best friend, let alone the guy Im going to marry, and I would never leave him high and dry to deal with her. She is supposed to be going back in for child support too. She said she has a Dr note that she can't work, indefinitely. Im sure we are going to get F'd and we just got two new cars bc both of ours took a crap on top of lawyer fees! Only thing I can hope is we get full custody from this clearly crazy person!