I got a good one for you all....
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Tonight, I had to work. (purposely, I admit). My HUSBAND is trick or treating with his EX and the kids. Isn't that sweet? And to top it off, he told his mother (who hasn't talked to him in months because of "me") that maybe 'they'd' stop by.
life just keeps getting worse. just when you think it can't. ARGHHHH
Wow what a issue. Have you
Wow what a issue. Have you thought about telling you husband that it is not right for him to go with his ex cause they are not a family anymore, it gives his child the wrong picture, not to mention make you uncomfortable. be nice about it. Kill them with kind kindness..
oh no
that would not be happening at my house either the kids go with us or they go with the other parent. There is no way in h*** I would put up with my DH doing anything with his ex and I know he feels the same there is no way he would put up with me doing something with my ex. As for the whole mom thing I would talk with him and let him know how you feel. Let us know how things go.
Live for today,you may not have a tommorow
Absolutely NOT!
Not appropriate!Sends the wrong message and false hope to those kids.Brings up fuzzy memories that are not the reality.We forget why they are ex now!How old are your kids?How long have you been married?I feel for you.I go thru the same thing and my DH looks like I am from another planet,but resists the invites.(of course the 22 year old punched me in the face)Thats disrespectful to your union!
I actually disagree with the comments
On the condition that you were invited to join them. We used to have joint birthdays for SD with BM and family (her husband, SD's maternal grandparents). It eliminated the need to do two parties. I would have been OK with a joint Halloween event (trick or treating) as long as it involved me. Wouldn't have wanted my husband and BM to take SD without me (even though there's no chance in hell anything would ever happen between them). That just sends the message that you are NOT part of the family, only a peripheral member.
it could be worse...
You could have gone with, like I did last night!
For the last 3 years my kids, my hubby's kids and the SK have all gone, TOGETHER. This has happened for a number of reasons (mostly DH not wanting to piss her off and tell her no) Told DH year is the LAST year I'll do this because it's just so damn uncomfortable. I told DH that I wanted to stay home and hand out candy rather than walk around as a group with her. This is the funny part- DH asked for my sister to come over to hand out candy so the "neighbors wouldn't think that the ex and I were married." Ummmm, not my issue.
I survived it though. The best was my 4yo who kept asking BM, "Why are you STILL here?" lol
THAT IS GREAT!
Your 4 year old... OUT OF THE MOUTH OF BABES huh! Once, BM came over (to borrow money to have her heat turned back on) DH, BM and I were all sitting at the dining room table as DH lectured her about her lack of prioritizing.... she made herself right at home asking if she could get a coke out of the fridge. When she was over at the fridge my 4 yo walked up to her and said "you don't live here, this is our house, why are you drinking Daddy J's soda?"... her eyes just got big as an owls. What do you say to that? I chuckled and apologized. I think my daughter calling him Daddy J surprised her the most... like SHE was the only one allowed to have a kid that called him ANYTHING CLOSE to Daddy... it was a phase she calls him by his first name now... we let them call us whatever they want (within reasonable means of course). I just told her to go play and went about our conversation. I am sure it ate her up inside though.
SS would be so confused if we did anything JOINT, he was confused enough when he broke his collar bone in Sept and DH was in the ER with BM... he knows they don't like each other (which is sad, but if she would stop talkin shit, or fighting in front of him he wouldn't have a clue). When he got home he asked me why his mom was there. Poor kid doesn't know which end is up sometimes.
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CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?