I have finally and completely LOST IT!!
Yesterday, everything came to a head and it EXPLODED!! As you know from my previous post about my DD and DS that they are both grounded b/c of the lying and hiding stuff from me. Well, it came to my attention that my son's g/f had brought over her tablet for him to use. He told me that he could only play games on it. (dumb me actually believed him for a very short time). I noticed that he had posted on FB, he claimed that he didnt do it and that someone hacked his account. Well, I didnt believe that one. I started watching him more closely. I gave him the chance to tell me the truth and he refused to.
Yesterday I confronted, him regarding the tablet and lying about it and him having access to his g/f during this grounding time.
(they could seriously stand a break.....I swear he lives up her butt). He blew up, cussing at me, he hit my 2 dogs and kicked my cat. He told me he hated me and hated living here with me and DH and DD. He wanted to go live with sperm donor. Well, I was actually going to kill him, at least really close to it. So I called S Donor g/f..or BM or whatever she is. Only b/c that is the only number we have to get hold of s donor. They said he could come down. She ended up coming down and getting DS meds and stuff.
I called his PO today and let him know what my son has been up.
1. all of yesterday
2. punching walls and putting huge holes in them
3. teasing dogs and cats. pulling on my cats tails, winding up dogs and then hitting them when they snap at him
4. not taking meds
5. not going to work
6. all the harrassing behavior towards EVERYONE in the house
PO said that he is taking him back to court on orignal underage consumption charges, and letting judge know everything else and he will be put on probation. He is also getting a DNA (do not associate) order, on his g/f.
That my son will have to come back to me in less that 3 weeks (only b/c there is a warrant out on my XH for not reporting to jail)
After everything that I've had to go thru with my SS now I have to replay everything with my own son?! How much more can I take?
the 3 oldest kids dont call, text, or anything. UNLESS they want something, and now my son wants nothing to do with us.
GRRRRRRRRR
Toughen up my friend, let
Toughen up my friend, let them all know it! Give them NOTHING of the kindness that is in your soul. People like that just walk all over decent folks, they also mistake good nature for stupidity.
The thing with juvenile delinquents is that they manipulate the system. They learn it from the inside out, and the outside back in again!
It was not until SD got a two year sentence in a secure juvenile facility that she finally woke up to what she'd done, if indeed she did wake up to it? She's a sorry girl now and wants to put it behind her. That's the thing with juvenile cases, the records are sealed. Once they offend past the age of 17 they are tried as adults...
Your hubby has a warrent
Your hubby has a warrent because he did not report to the jail? explain that to me..I am confussed about that, is it over son violateing and he did not report it or something? The reason I am asking is because BF s has a warrent and the police came by here looking for him and BF knew his ware abouts, If SS is here and my BF does not report it will he have a warrent on him? because SS is back here now.SS is 19 by the way..but what I am curious to know would BF be considered harbouring a fugative? As SS is labled as a Felon? AS for you S, My BS went through the same issues, only I had to take him off meds because I found out he was doing xanex off the streets and did not want him to mix chemicals and die, he was on probation at the time and like you I made a phone call and did a tell all..it was part of the tough love saying " If you cant get yourself in control ill find a place that will put you in control", and he was picked up, If s is on probation and acting out by hitting walls and stuff that could be considered a new charge against him but only a technacial violation and shows he is encourageable. Please let me know about BD situation there a little better, because my SS has been a COMPLETE handful and BD I dont think really realizes if this could come back on him or not, how old is your S that is going on probation? and yes my BF s does have a active warrent.
No, I think what she's saying
No, I think what she's saying is that her XH didn't report himself to jail when he was supposed to. Some minor things they let you serve time on the weekends, or when you can take time off work, things like that.
My XH has the warrant out on
My XH has the warrant out on him b/c of failure to report to jail, b/c he didnt pay his CS. My XH (the bio-dad) and I have been divorced for almost 14 yrs. He has been out of my kids lives for the last 7-8 yrs. Not b/c of anything I've done but just his own choice. Apparently both of my younger kids have been sneaking to go see him, they told me they did it behind my back b/c " you dont like him and we didnt think you would let us see him" **Now I have ALWAYS encouraged him to see them and vice versa.**
My son is going to be 17 in Jan(if he lives long enough).
I have always had problems with him since he was little. he has ADHD and Bi-Polar. He is on meds for those BUT he refuses to take them when he is not at school, like for vacations and weekends. I have told him the effects that has on his mind and body but he wont take them.
I also just found out(by going thru his room, cleaning it out) from notes his g/f wrote him. That he has been STEALING FROM and LYING TO HER TOO!!!