My partners 11yoD when she is watching something, and myself and BF start talking to eachother, she pauses the TV untill we finish speaking, absolutely grates me, how rude?! *bomb*
Have you asked her why she does it? I know that if DH gets an important call (or a call that seems important to him), I either pause what we're watching or put it on mute if that isn't possible. For me it's a question of respect and from his side, if it takes more than 30 seconds, he takes it out of the room. Could this be,something that her mother insists on in her home?
Pausing the show so she doesn't miss dialogue? Not rude at all. Talking while someone is trying to watch a show.. maybe is?
If you aren't watching the show and want to talk to your BF.. it would be more polite to leave the room.. if there is another room she could be watching her show in.. like her own BR.. maybe that would be a good place for her.. so you and your BF don't interrupt?
No, it's something she has watched over and over again. She tries to dominate most situations when she is here. She is generally a very rude and obnoxious child, does not respect boundaries or rules. Will happily disturb when we are watching TV, or demand we finish watching something so she can watch what she wants to watch. When she pauses something she is watching for the 500th time, she will sit and stare at us as if to say be quiet. You can't utter or whisper a word befire she pauses it and gives you a look. It is rude and I won't leave the room when she absolutely tries to dominate it for the whole time she is here when that room is for all of us.
I would find it irritating if SD paused the show, especially if we are speaking quietly, because I would rather nosy SD not be listening to every word we say to each other. DH or I would be in charge of the remote, not SD. I can see how if it is already an established tradition that SD can use the remote while her parents watch TV then it is going to be hard for you as an outsider to come in and change that. It would be best that she watch TV in another area.
But we don't allow her to watch TV in another room (that room being our bedroom - totally out of bounds) and we don't have a tv in another room as we have quite a small house. It just irks me that she does it with such an entitled attitude attached to it.
Why don't you and your DH watch tv in your bedroom and she can watch her show in the lounge? You get your privacy and can chat all you want, and she can watch her show without the need to keep pausing it. I understand you are frustrated as it offends you her doing it, so watching tv in your own private space might be a win-win for you and her.
If I'm watching tv, and someone else in the room begins talking, I pause the tv so I don't miss any dialogue, even if is something I have seen before. I will also pause the tv if I think it is interfering with someone else who is talking or on the phone. If this is an ongoing issue, maybe she should watch tv somewhere else, or you should talk in another room.
If you are unhappy, since you are venting , your unhappy, tell BF to fix it. Either you fix this now, or SD will be controlling your life. This how it starts, she knows you are unhappy, but she is winning. As she gets older she will control more abd more. BF either gets SD in line or time for exit plan
Does she have a bedroom at your house? If so, get her a tv in there and that's where she has to watch her shows. I do agree that modern parents tend to let kids take over the common living areas. It's annoying. I hate going to people's houses where the living room and kitchen are just littered with toys and have "kid shows" blaring. The adults pay for and maintain the home. Common spaces should be more theirs than kids'.
Have you asked her why she
Have you asked her why she does it? I know that if DH gets an important call (or a call that seems important to him), I either pause what we're watching or put it on mute if that isn't possible. For me it's a question of respect and from his side, if it takes more than 30 seconds, he takes it out of the room. Could this be,something that her mother insists on in her home?
Unfortunately not.
She's brought up with no boundaries, doesn't say please or thank you and doesn't accept the word no.
Pausing the show so she doesn
Pausing the show so she doesn't miss dialogue? Not rude at all. Talking while someone is trying to watch a show.. maybe is?
If you aren't watching the show and want to talk to your BF.. it would be more polite to leave the room.. if there is another room she could be watching her show in.. like her own BR.. maybe that would be a good place for her.. so you and your BF don't interrupt?
No, it's something she has
No, it's something she has watched over and over again. She tries to dominate most situations when she is here. She is generally a very rude and obnoxious child, does not respect boundaries or rules. Will happily disturb when we are watching TV, or demand we finish watching something so she can watch what she wants to watch. When she pauses something she is watching for the 500th time, she will sit and stare at us as if to say be quiet. You can't utter or whisper a word befire she pauses it and gives you a look. It is rude and I won't leave the room when she absolutely tries to dominate it for the whole time she is here when that room is for all of us.
I would find it irritating if
I would find it irritating if SD paused the show, especially if we are speaking quietly, because I would rather nosy SD not be listening to every word we say to each other. DH or I would be in charge of the remote, not SD. I can see how if it is already an established tradition that SD can use the remote while her parents watch TV then it is going to be hard for you as an outsider to come in and change that. It would be best that she watch TV in another area.
I agree.
But we don't allow her to watch TV in another room (that room being our bedroom - totally out of bounds) and we don't have a tv in another room as we have quite a small house. It just irks me that she does it with such an entitled attitude attached to it.
Why don't you and your DH
Why don't you and your DH watch tv in your bedroom and she can watch her show in the lounge? You get your privacy and can chat all you want, and she can watch her show without the need to keep pausing it.
I understand you are frustrated as it offends you her doing it, so watching tv in your own private space might be a win-win for you and her.
If I'm watching tv and someone else in the room begins talking,
If I'm watching tv, and someone else in the room begins talking, I pause the tv so I don't miss any dialogue, even if is something I have seen before. I will also pause the tv if I think it is interfering with someone else who is talking or on the phone. If this is an ongoing issue, maybe she should watch tv somewhere else, or you should talk in another room.
You are letting this happen
If you are unhappy, since you are venting , your unhappy, tell BF to fix it. Either you fix this now, or SD will be controlling your life. This how it starts, she knows you are unhappy, but she is winning. As she gets older she will control more abd more.
BF either gets SD in line or time for exit plan
Does she have a bedroom at
Does she have a bedroom at your house? If so, get her a tv in there and that's where she has to watch her shows. I do agree that modern parents tend to let kids take over the common living areas. It's annoying. I hate going to people's houses where the living room and kitchen are just littered with toys and have "kid shows" blaring. The adults pay for and maintain the home. Common spaces should be more theirs than kids'.