It doesn´t get better with age!

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One of my best friends that was also with a single dad (two daughters of 9 and 11) since August and ended in February (because of the exact same reasons we read here everyday) was showing me yesterday matches on Tinder and she goes "This one has a daughter, but she´s already 18 so it´s cool" And I after spending so many hours reading Steptalk told her "It doesn´t get better with age! just worse, I read this forum and you should read it too!"

She ignored me and started showing me the guy instagram......and it was unbelievable.....only pictures of him and his daughter as if they were a couple, pictures of only his daughter like she was a model and poems to her...completely disgusting.....well she was warned!

Creepy!

I would advise anyone against getting into a relationship with anyone who has kids, regardless of the dynamics involved. But that sounds borderline incestuous (emotionally, at least)! Poems? Really!??? If my biological dad started writing me poems I'd feel awkward as heck!

Yeah, I wouldn't date a guy

Yeah, I wouldn't date a guy who is already dating his daughter.

LMAOOOOOO! Well said!

ahahahahah yes!

Marrying someone who already

Marrying someone who already has children just isn't worth it. I would advise against it even in the best situations. These situations are all rainbows and butterflies at first. Give it a few years and it becomes stephell. You will be just used and rarely treated with respect.

Mini-wife

Did you tell your friend about mini-wife syndrom? And she still wants this guy? Is she that desperate? Is she that unable to be single????

And yes, I wish Toxic Trll BM would trap a dude with toxic kiddos, and have to do battle with a toxic teenage step daughter (she already has SD21 Feral Forger...so she has lots of practice!)

She says a lot that I´m being

She says a lot that I´m being crazy and that a daughter with 18 has already her own life...I think she is not aware of all the mess being raise by a guilty dad brings and the co dependancy ......that is so loud and clear in that crazy instagram page!

How can she think that all of

How can she think that all of the instagram photos and poems are normal, and not weird and creepy?

Please, y'all, inform me

Please, y'all, inform me about mini-wife syndrome. We already have alienated step child on the list, so the more I can learn now the better.

Pineappleeffect

Search mini wife on this site. Read up in the forums. The adult stepdhildren forum has tons of nauseating stories.

Mini-wife

Mini-wife syndrome. I had that a little bit with SD23 Feral Forger.

I didnt know it at the time, but as things have come out in conversation over the years (8 plus), I see it now. FF was apparently the Queen Bee of the household, that SD16 PS recalls. While her father was going through his depression over his marriage and family being blown up, she was in charge. He said she cleaned and was VERY helpful. And that stopped as soon as I started residing there. PS tells me that she was happy BM was gone. Husband tells me this also. That she was GLAD.

She was very bossy to her younger sister I remember that. And very demanding all the time. She sucked the joy out of every room she was in because if she wasnt getting what she wanted or the center of attention then there was he!! to pay, and everyone would know it.

Stuff like that. Watch out for the constant demands for attention. The whole sitting on dads lap, the handholding, the secretive little club they want to have with just dadee and them.

I dont have it as much with SD16 PS. I have her busting in between us when we all walk together. The putting her up as adult status. Shes treated like an equal with her mother and cannot handle going back to "child status" at our house.

Lots of layers to mini wife. You become the outsider. You are put in competition.

Sd is sorry if a mini wife,

Sd is sort of a mini wife, and an alienated child. She 100% thinks she makes rules at or house. Literally TOLD me that i need to enforce a rule SHE made up.

But also believes BM when she told sd that DH pushed her down the stairs while she was pregnant, BM had also shown her texts between BM and DH (that were heavily edited), and when i temind her SPECIFIC details that she was part of, to show how things BM told her are not true, she REMEMBERS that detail, but says she still believes BM... I'm just like what ever, I don't try anymore at this point, today DH admits that at this point he gives up. What ever sd wants to believe is what she's going to believe, and what ever sd wants to do, she's going to do, so why bother. She's 17, going to graduate in literally 5 months and move off for college.

I think she isn´t aware like

I think she isn´t aware like I wasn´t....at first I thought my ex was such a good father and that was so honourable and a sign of character (lol) I even have friends that say "come on all fathers run away from the responsability you had to find the only one that really wants to be a father"

But this weird type of behaviour of Disney Dad, mini-wife and emotional incest has nothing to do with wanting to be a good father to his own child. I suffered a lot before finding steptalk because I thought something was wrong with me for feeling jealous, neglected and sad all the time, just after reading many posts here I started to wake up and see the mess I was in.

The ex BF of my friend had no time for here and she thinks it was because they were little and with a 18 year old she won´t have that problem. She is not seeing the BIG (omg so BIG) picture (mess this type of single dads are).

Everything will be fine with

Everything will be fine with your friend as long as she goes along with the guy and his daughter's current program. The minute she starts to assert herself as the love interest in daddee's life she'll have hell to pay. Imagine the horror if he wrote a poem for his gf rather than daughter, oh the jealousy! He'll probably keep his relationship with her on the down low while still posting about he and his daughter-wife.

If the SKid has Shit parents, it never ends.

18 is not a magic event for those with shallow and polluted gene pools.

The best indicator of future performance is past behavior. Companies have used behavioral interviewing methodologies based on this fact for decades. Those considering engaging in a relationship with a prior failed family breeder would do themselves a favor to develop a library of 'Failed Parent' behavioral interviewing questions to identify instant reject criteria for these types of people.

I know, not sexy, not romantic, but.... think of the pain, suffering, anger, and rediculousness that could be avoided.

Ew. Yuck. Sounds like a mini

Ew. Yuck. Sounds like a mini-wife situation. I'd run far and fast from that one. And I agree with the sentiment that just because a stepkid is 18 or older, that means nothing. They tend to hang on and are really annoying.

I also tell others not to ever get involved with someone who has kids - I tell them, "you'll never be fulfilled, you'll always be last." My close friend has met a guy who has an 11 yo daughter and she's dating him. I gave her my speech but she's like, "well, he's a good parent," etc., you know, the usual denial stuff. I'm anticipating drama soon. I love my friend but will have to really resist the urge to say, "told ya so."

While I'm not interested in dating for at least a year, I will avoid anyone with kids if and when I decide to date. At my age, this means I will likely remain single. I'm okay with that, it's better than skid and parent drama.