It Never Gets Any Easier.. Does It???
I'm really not liking being a SM...we have no say in anything but have to put up with all this crap all the time...
So to start off:
1-SD10 is crazy about this boy in school. SD made friends with this boys sister so that the sister could call her BM's house and she would think that BM is chatting with a little girl from school..all the while this little boy comes on the line and chats with SD.
2-SD does not want to engage in any physical activity..she says if I dont want to do it then I will not do it...her BM gives in and just lets her be and SD is getting heavier and heavier..she is now wearing x-lrg..
3-SD behaves with us because we only see her EOW..but omg the minute we question her about anything the little witch in her comes out...
OMG I so dont want to do this anymore...this child is heading down a very bad path..thanks to her BM.... and DH and I have no control or say in what goes on because BM has custody..so we have to sit by and see this happen and we cant do a darn thing...
sorry for the rant..just very frustrated lately and well I need to disengage..I think
Z
Well, I don't see anything
Well, I don't see anything crazy about number 1.
Number 2 - ehhh. Not good. When girls are heavyset at her age, it poses a whole new set of probs because her self-esteem will deteriorate. When self esteem goes down...oh boy.
Number 3 - Yea, she is probably taking after her mom....and it could be her age/hormmones. But her witchiness will likey become much worse if her self esteem is low.
1- this will be interesting
1- this will be interesting to see how this progresses into teen years
2- i've seen this with SD15. She complains about her weight and fishes for "your not fat" reactions from people. BUT won't control her eating and whines makes excuses for why she doesn't work out
3- Just wait until she is 14. It gets really fun then.
I do believe that a girl who
I do believe that a girl who is that in awwwww of a boy at 10yrs old, who lies about this boy, meets this boy at recess and the first thing she does when we drop her off EOW is get in touch with this boy...I see no good coming out of this. Her teen years are going to be a disaster if this is her main focus in life. argh....
I'm so not looking forward to this mess..and you know what...BM doesn't want my DH to have any say in what goes on in own daughters life..imagine..what is wrong with this woman..
I hope I'm wrong and that I'm just a little bit down about this whole thing but I see this heading in a terrible direction..gosh I hope I'm wrong...
Sorry to be such a downer but it's been a hell a few months.... Z
If she is getting away with
If she is getting away with being sneaky now she'll be worse later. I am with you.
She gets away with being
She gets away with being sneaky at her moms because she's just like her mom... at our house no way does she get away with it. but we only have her EOW so whatever we do gets undone the minute she's back with BM...
Z
10 is extremely young.
10 is extremely young.
I agree, my mind wasn't on
I agree, my mind wasn't on boys at 10yrs old. I was out with my friends, riding our bikes, swimming, helping my mom in the kitchen...if I had lied to my parents they would of punished me for life...lol..we were 5 kids and never thought about lying to our parents. We were respectful and told the truth...
I envy your situation... I
I envy your situation... I have a SD a year older than yours and am dealing with the same issues, EXCEPT we have her 24/7, 365/yr. Believe me when I say, it can be so much worse.
24/7 that's what my DH
24/7 that's what my DH wants....but I'm not so sure anymore. The way this girl is behaving EOW is plenty enough for me.. I hate to say this but it's true.
I guess we are just frustrated because BM does not want my DH to have any say in his daughters life. BM wants him to pay every month, she wants him to be a EOW babysitter and a taxi service. But the minute he questions or asks what is going on..BM turns into the devil...
Z
Oh dont give up...although
Oh dont give up...although I'm feeling the same way about things. I am starting to believe that in order to keep my sanity that I just need to be polite to SD and do the bare minimum for her and let things be. At the end of the day I am not her mother, I have no say in her life..so I need to backup a little bit.
Z