Older new wife - very healthy and happy with new husband and retirement *** except for bumps placed in road by adult stepdaughters. NEW GROUND for us, especially me.
Yep, simply being polite is enough for me. If your DH's kids are not even doing that, then DH needs to speak to them about HIS expectations and call them out on their bad behavior. Presumably they want their dad to be happy. If he won't do that or their behaviors don't change, there is no need to pretend. Disengage. He can go see his kids on his own without you there.
The early years were hard for my DH's kids. But I will say they are at least polite to me, and sometimes even friendly. I'm lucky.
Let this site be your release. You seem so uptight like you are afraid of telling too many details and getting "discovered". Share a little more (it can be specific without giving personal details) and maybe you can get some better helpful advice
Set your boundaries now and
Set your boundaries now and hold DH to supporting them. For sure enforce them when the adult SDs step out of line.
Good luck and enjoy your retirement and new husband.
Yep, simply being polite is
Yep, simply being polite is enough for me. If your DH's kids are not even doing that, then DH needs to speak to them about HIS expectations and call them out on their bad behavior. Presumably they want their dad to be happy. If he won't do that or their behaviors don't change, there is no need to pretend. Disengage. He can go see his kids on his own without you there.
The early years were hard for my DH's kids. But I will say they are at least polite to me, and sometimes even friendly. I'm lucky.
Let this site be your
Let this site be your release. You seem so uptight like you are afraid of telling too many details and getting "discovered". Share a little more (it can be specific without giving personal details) and maybe you can get some better helpful advice
adults are just that. they
adults are just that. they are his children but they are no long five. no need to be around them if they are rude or jealous.
your husband needs to use his balls if her already has not. if adult children make your life miserable, its your husbands fault for letting them.
agree with boundaries.