Hello everyone.  I know this is place to talk step family stuff but I need to express my feelings on another subject that is not related.  I hope that's okay since this is a general forum.  

My son, who is 25, lost his future father-in-law, well, his girlfriend's father.  I say futher FIL because my son has expredded that he planned to propose on a family trip her parents were taking them all on next summer.  The man who passed was 53, only 3 years older than me.  He was loved by many, had a thriving business, and just starting to really enjoy his riches for himself and his wife, purchasing his dream car, a Bently convertible, last summer.  He was good to my son, who's own father was't/isn't a big presence in his life.  Offered to set him up in business once he finished electrician school, gave him advice when needed, and just there for him in a way that I knew if anything happened to me I didn't have to worry. My son was looking fowrard to having a FIL and I was looking forward to sharing grandchildren with him and his wife.  Especially since he'd be the "only" grandfather my son's future kids would have known on a regular basis. I am heart broken for his girlfriend, her mother and brother, her grandparents (her dad's parents who are sill living), and my son.  I am heartbroken that this may have been avoided had he been vaccinated but who really knows.  UNDERSTAND I am not putting blame on him for not being vaccinated, I just wonder as I'm sure many who loved him do.  His death is hitting me in a way I didn't expect.  Because he wasn't much older than me? Because he was a big part of my son's life the last 6 years? Because I feel what his daughter and son are feeling having lost my own father several years ago unexpectedly? Because her mom is now a widow at 50, the same age as me?  A combinations of all of those things? I don't know but I do know my heart is heavy and sad and breaks for them all.  

Thank you for listening and allowing me to share my feelings.  Please, no political/pro/con vaccination coments, PLEASE!  That's not what this is about.  I needed a sounding board and hope you don't mind.