With the holidays here for many of us I have something to say. "TA DA" (clears throat)

Make some memories with your children even if it's only 4 hours and it's not perfect. The kids do remember those moments of baking cookies, opening and shopping for gifts, having that hot cocoa together, driving around to see the lights. Whatever silly thing it is.

Forget the past and don't worry about the future for just one day. Live in the moment and try to wrap yourself around some joy for that time.

With divorce we lose time from the kids and I really really want to make the best of the time I am with my kids and my step kids. Just like non-blended families - yes - there is disfunction. All families have issues and players and pains in the ass. So if you have a difficult kid involved - don't let them be the center of attention. Give them a job to do - like wrapping a gift or making something for someone else. Throw them outside to shovel if they are acting super difficult or take them for a ride to see the lights.

Life is so short and I am walking into the holidays with the intention of gliding as much as a can, and daring to smile even around the grumpies. Smile, laugh, and take some chances at loving those around you. Be the one to set the tone.

That's all. A little idealistic maybe - but "why not"? What do we have to lose? Have a new vision. Forget the custody battles - child support orders - etc. - for one day. We can say we tried and we ourselves decided to have a good time regardless of anyone else.

Happy Holiday! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year.